Ok so first of, if you’ve gone through my old post and you’re in a similar situation, please listen to the advice given there and leave asap. Don’t make the same mistake that I did.
I made the mistake of staying because soon after that post she noticed me pulling away and she started changing. She became more loving and understanding and put on a show of sorts. She kept that show going for a whole year (yea crazy) until it fell apart. She was basically insecure about this girl who had complimented my fashion (not even looks lol) and had assumed that she was hitting on me lol and I said uhm no we have no interest in each other and she is fully focused on academics and not into this stuff. I even offered to block her for her peace but she said no need…until one day I sent a snap of some kittens in my class and the girl was holding the kittens and I completely forgot my ex was insecure about her but then later she asked me who’s in the pic and she was in a foul mood so to protect the peace I just said it’s a guy friend (my fault ik) and then later I admitted to it being my fault and she twisted it into accusing me of cheating, lying etc and I said you can’t just erase your trust over a white lie and I still sent her screen recordings of my chats with the girl to prove myself. She even accused me of hiding things to which I pulled up screenshots of me texting her about that girl. I then proceeded to block the girl everywhere even tho she never asked me to. And I think this fucked up her perception of me and she projected her unhealed trauma from her previous relationship (she got cheated on by her 2nd ex) and she then proceeded to ruin my mental health for the entirety of May by threatening to cheat on me then apologising love bombing and saying she never would(trauma bonding thus a toxic relationship). She also admitted somewhere in the middle of May that she wanted to cheat on me at the start of our relationship (the same time I last posted ironically) so that she could get the “feel” of what it’s like to cheat on someone?? Mostly like a revenge of sorts of what her ex did to her but then she realised I’m loyal and she dropped the idea lmao so she was writing love letters with 1 hand while preparing a cheating plan with the other and projecting it all on me saying that I would cheat on her.
And before all this happened she had also refused to remove her other first ex whom she was still following everywhere and I had brought this up even before this whole drama unfolded and she had clearly said “hes just there for me as a friend not as an ex because he cares even if no one else does he cares so im not gonna remove him, if you have a problem with it idk I can’t help it” whereas she had once had a fight with me for even dating someone before her??? And then finally in the first week of June while I was in the middle of my exams she cheated on me with the same first ex but didn’t tell me nothing she just told me she met him that’s all. After that she started treating me like absolute shit (she was doing it before this too but it got 10x worse), name calling, trashing me to her friends publicly and abusing me verbally and mocking me on my birthday. Then broke it off 2 days after my bday and said “I lowered my standards to date you, it’s funny how she(the girl she was insecure about) would go for such an average pathetic guy like you”. I tried not to let these words destroy me but yea it did affect my exams very badly.
I found out about the cheating 2 days later from her friend. So the truth was that she was never over her ex, especially now that I see the first post where I mention she said she’s missing him and once she even posted a story saying she’s crying over The night we met by lord Huron. So yea she just used me as a rebound of sorts until she met him again. So yea I wish I’d listened to all the strangers on reddit that day or I wouldn’t be in this position today but yea I’ve learnt my lesson now to never ever ignore glaring red flags.
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Glad you’re free. I hope she’s blocked on everything.