For context, I’m 25 and from the UK.
So we’ll call her Sophie (16F) I’m friends with her auntie and will sometimes go to their house to hang out, she’s usually chill while her family is there. Her parents are busy as hell with work so they asked me if whenever i’m available to pick her up from school, I agreed. Her mother also gave me her number so Sophie could text me directly when she needed picking up.
After a couple months of doing this, last week she asked me “do you ever fuck girls in this car?” I was shocked, I genuinely didn’t know how to respond. I just said “you shouldn’t be talking like that” then she asked “would you fuck me in this car?” I replied “you’re too young to be talking and thinking like that, stop. I’m not entertaining this”. She was quiet the rest of the trip home. The next day she messaged me saying “sorry, I just got so horny for you”. I left that message on read. A few hours ago I got a message from her saying “I think about you when I shag my boyfriend” as far as I’m aware she doesn’t have one idk.
I feel like me having a one on one talk with her will have the opposite effect I want it to have, is this a case where I should just go straight to the parents? Did I fuck up not going to them straight away after what she asked me in the car? It’s starting to make me feel so uncomfortable, i’m wondering where tf she learned this shit from or why she’s so brazen! I also just feel sorry for her, she’s clearly desperate for some attention.
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you should definitely tell her parents the situation and probably apologize for not going to them sooner. save the texts as evidence and tell them that her talking to you like that makes you uncomfortable
I would definitely tell her parents. Or better yet talk to her aunt before she kind of gauge with her parents are like. To see if they would punish her in a constructive way or it would just end up making things worse. Either way this is quite language to use. I’m too scared to even say that out loud to men that I know would screw me.
you tell her parents now and save your own ass
Save these texts and tell her parents she is being inappropriate with you and it is making you uncomfortable.
Don’t be 1 on 1 with this girl if you can avoid it.
New generation is cooked man I need to get out of the west
If you aren’t proactive here (by informing someone) you run the risk of having to answer tough questions later. You definitely want to get out in front of this now rather than trying to explain your inaction later.
Just tell her mom and stop communicating with her and giving her rides
Save the texts, block this girl’s number, tell her parents and the aunt, and NEVER EVER be left alone with her again. Completely remove yourself from this situation. This could lead to you in prison or ostracized for the rest of your life.
TELL HER PARENTS or someone of authority in her family IMMEDIATELY and show them the texts!
ABSO-FRICKEN-LUTELY DO NOT PICK HER UP OR BE ALONE WITH HER FOR ANY REASON! You are tap dancing on a greased tightrope over a pit of fire with no safety harness or net.
This girl can literally ruin the rest of your life! Even an accusation, much less an arrest or conviction, can severely limit job opportunities or cause you to lose the one you have. Your school/college admissions or continued enrollment could be cut. Your permission to even being around children as in you may be legally restricted to being around children below a certain age which could limit your available dating pool, or even interactions with kiddos in your own family.
GET AWAY from HER!!
UpdateMe about how it goes.
ETA – even if the age of consent is 16 in the UK, if she’s angry and trying to get you into trouble, she won’t say she consented to anything.
Save texts and tell someone. She could absolutely ruin your reputation, friendships and LIFE in one go
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Cut off contact with her. I promise you she will find a away to report you and ruin your life. Just look up stories like this. If a girl acts like this and dosnt get what she wants, she will say you raped and touched her.. it will ruin you.. stay away.
I would probably send her a text stating that she is too young for you to ever have any form of intimacy with, and her trying to talk about things like this makes you uncomfortable.
I say this as a form of protection for you BEFORE you talk to the Aunt and potentially have her talked to by anyone, so she doesn’t spin the truth and say you hit on her or maybe even made advances.
Odds are she will reply with something that will keep you in the clear of that. She will likely respond, “Why do you think about me” or something like that. Then I would go to the Aunt, explain everything, and go from there. You, being an adult, need to proceed with as much caution as possible
she is trying to get you in jail, don’t indulge in any kind of personal talk with this kid
Take screenshots and show her parents
STOP BEING ALONE WITH HER AND TELL HER PARENTS/SOMEONE IN AUTHORITY!
She could be being abused by someone and acting out because of it.
You need to stop this behavior before it ruins your life!
Do not ever be alone with her again under any circumstances. Even if she or the parents say it’s an emergency and she needs a ride.
And show her parents the texts asap. She can claim assault on you once it settles in that you’re not going to give her the attention she wants and her feelings are hurt.
Stay away.
Inform her parents and STAY AWAY from her at all times.
BLOCKED!!!
Doesn’t seem like she’s backing off even after explicitly stating that it wasn’t appropriate. It’s time to involve the parents and cut off the pick ups until further notice. You already have text messages proving her advances.
Isn’t this basically a scene out of Once Upon a Time in Hollywood? Lol
Please report this before she turns this around on YOU. She needs to get help. Hyper sexuality does not just appear out of thin air… there is more to this CHILD’s story. Good on you OP for knowing your place now protect your neck.
Yeah this is a huge issue, I would NOT be alone with this girl ever. Immediately tell her parents. I’m also concerned about why she thought it was appropriate to even make a move on a 25 year old man as a 16 year old girl.
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You are waaaaaaay to calm about this.
If you don’t tell her parents she may ruin your life.
Dude you need to be the one who brings this to light. It’s probably one of the only ways you can come away cleanly. You gotta tell her parents and NEVER be alone with her again.
You’re an idiot if you stay in touch with her or her family again. I know England plays loosey-goosey with underage sex laws but Jesus Christ man… it’s worth the risk to you? It wouldn’t be for me.
Screenshot, screenshot, screenshot! Tell her parents FIRST! Before you say anything to her. You do not want her twisting things and either accusing you of something you haven’t done or trying to push you into a corner. There’s nothing wrong with not having told them at first if you were thinking she was just being daft or pushing boundaries, but now it is absolutely the right thing to do.
Expect push back at first. When met with this type of information, some parents will absolutely not believe you. That’s why the screenshots are so important. I agree with everyone else, do NOT be alone with this kid, again. It’s not worth the risk.
Good luck, mate. Hope it all goes well.
Do not go anywhere near that girl again without at least a dozen other people around. Let her parents know immediately and send them the texts.
listen, a lot of people start exploring with their sexuality or already have begun engaging in sexual acts by age 16. as an adult, as you clearly know, it’s not your business to worry about where she learned all this or how she got so brazen. she likely has access to the internet. obviously that’s not your main concern, you’ve made that clear, but i just want to reiterate to not even question or think about that aspect- don’t put yourself into a worse position by trying to figure her out here. as others have said, just get the hell out of dodge with this situation. do NOTTT spend any more time alone with her and please tell her parents. that’s that.
Prison isn’t an issue, it would be entirely lawful for you to have sex with her. A lot of Americans here assuming she’s jailbait – AGE OF CONSENT IN THE UK IS 16.
But it would probably fuck up your friendship with her aunt, and it isn’t a great look in this day and age.
Teenagers and hormones man… it’s kinda funny, we all have been there, but not for you, she is being quite inappropriate
Tell her auntie about it and back off
this sounds very concerning . i would avoid contact with this person and call her parents. she could be trying to use this to manipulate or get something and it could be a honest advancement but you can never trust a 16 year old who is putting that much trouble on you.
Run straight to the parents whitout her knowing explain all this and be careful of accusations
UpdateMe. Tell her parents before she get butthurt over you ignoring her and make up some claim or her parents see those texts and think something is going on
Nope nope nope nope nope nope OP get the FUCK away from her. You will be on a registry in no time and your life will be over
OP. RUN. 🏃 🏃🏿♂️
DO it all now! She doesn’t think you’ll tell her folks. It’s too shocking. Tell them and show them. I would probably go to the authorities first. Hell. I don’t know. Anyone know a cop intimately?
Edit: I didn’t allow myself to get too far in. In the USA it’s your life is ruined if this type of thing starts up. A literal nightmare.
You need to show her folks and let them know you’re checking out of the school house pickup lane fr.
I have a feeling they think she’s an angel OR they know she’s a precocious. 😳
It’s a really serious and dangerous situation. Be super cautious and DONT BE ALONE WITH HER EVER AGAIN. Tell someone, show texts, extract yourself from this situation asap
You can be respectful and non-judgmental about it and own up that maybe you should have said something right away but you were so thrown that you needed to figure out what to do first, but you NEED to tell her parents, show them the texts and get ahead of this. This could fuck up your life forever if you don’t involve the relevant third parties, even with the best of intentions. She’s clearly got it bad for you, but if you reject her, even a soft rejection, it’s very likely that to save herself from embarrassment she flips the story on its head and tells people you came onto her!
Also, you need to draw a boundary and stop being alone with her. You might wish you could continue to be helpful, but you have to put yourself first and just don’t even make it plausible that anything could have happened between you. Her inconvenience and embarrassment is not more important than your reputation, career, and your life as you know it.
That might be an indication of her being abused and having been abused as a child. That is not funny, talk to her parents.
In the UK she is above the age of consent. But I would definitely tell her parents.
Should you even ask for opinion? Pretty obvious what you should do.
Go. To. The parents.
Before this gets way fucked up.
I’m a forensic psychologist. RUN. Tell people immediately, show the texts, never lay eyes on that girl again. RUN.
I’m not from UK, but you might need to officially register the conversations with a notary’s office, since screenshots can be rejected as proof on trials.
YOLO!
Tell the parents, show the proof, and I’m not in the UK but I saw a comment saying get the texts notarised, so if you can, you should. And then cut that family off unfortunately, and if you can’t, limit as much possible time with their daughter as you can. This will only escalate.
Happened to me as well.
I was 30 and working in a bakery, she was 15 and a classmate and friend of the owner’s daughter (which was like a daughter to me).
One day after the lunch i prepared them like every thursdays, while i was on a break watching youtube videos she entered the room and asked me if we could watch porn together.
I quit the same week.
Kids don’t always know what they are doing, so as sensible adults we react accordingly, trying to do what is best for them.
Nip it in the bud before it gets worse and face the potential fallout.
Let the parents know. And then run for the hills.
She’s a predator. Your told her no, once. Now tell her family and stop one-on-one interactions
Tell her parents you are not comfortable being around her alone and show them the texts. This could get serious if she involves you in any of her fantasies. It doesn’t need to be true for it to ruin your reputation.