18F I met this guy 18M 2 weeks ago and been together since and he’s super super super sweet and I thought I liked him. We met today as were long distance and omg I just don’t feel it and im not attracted to him . I’m only 18 it’s my first relationship. He’s so in love with me like he said I love u after like 4 days and he asked me to go out with him after 3 days. He’s constantly showering me with complements and he seems so deeply into me. I feel so bad cause he’s so nice he bought me an €80 jellycat and I feel terrible. I don’t like him in that way and we kissed twice i hated it he loved it. He asked to kiss before he left and I said no. I feel so bad I’m like really new to this and I just need girlie’s to chat to and how do I break up if so how?
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“I’m not interested in you the way you are interested in me, I’d prefer to stay friends.”
I don’t wanna be an ass, but I think it’s impossible for someone to truly know whether or not they love you after 4 days. Especially at 18.
You also said you hated it when he kissed you – it’s valid to be uncomfortable and to take priority over your own feelings. Don’t let him get away with things that make you uncomfortable just because you feel bad for him. ):
Some people just like the idea of being in love and doing everything to make other person feel like how they wanted to feel
Either tell him toh take things slow or tell him the truth that you feel overwhelmed
If you don’t feel anything for him just break up with him
Be honest and just tell him. It’s better for both of you. If he is trying to love bomb and manipulate you the only way to escape it is by learning and asserting your boundaries with yourself and with him, even if he isn’t trying to love bomb you it’s important to do it. Don’t force yourself to stay in a relationship you don’t want because you are scared to disappoint and hurt him, the pain of living a lie is a lot worse and you will only hurt yourself and him a lot more doing that.
You have to listen to yourself and your needs to learn how to break people pleasing behaviors before they get out of control. Learn your own boundaries and how to assert them without fear of hurting others because not doing it will eventually cause more suffering to yourself and people you didn’t want to hurt. Look at this situation not as a personal failure of some sort but as a way to practice asserting yourself and as a learning opportunity in your self discovery journey. You don’t have to be mean to him in any way and neither to yourself. So what if you made a choice and found out it wasn’t the best for you? It happens all the time and it’s better to catch that earlier on than to drag it until you are miserable, it’s actually a great sign that you are not lying to yourself about not having romantic feelings for him.
You know what to do, good luck.