hi everyone, recently I got a burden on my heart.
one of my friends testified to me some days ago about how he had sex & lost his virginity at 16, I also know a couple of my ex classmates from my high school who lost their virginities at young ages too, meanwhile I’m 19 and never had sex before.
and the way my friend told his story…, it made me feel so embarrassed & worthless, so idiotic and weak, and put so much pressure on me that I’ve been thinking about it non-stop…
i had relationships here and there with girls, but nothing went that far.. ; and now I’m feeling so inferior just due to the social culture to lose it as early as possible, and me still being a virgin…
i didn’t do it until now because I haven’t met the right person yet, is it that wrong to wait for the right person nowadays, should I be ashamed…?
or it became that common to just lose it as early as possible just for the pride of it…
i’d love some advice please & hear your stories, I’d like to get over this..
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I’m almost 17, still a virgin, and will be until I marry the right one. I, too, have friends and students at my school losing their virginity at my age and younger. Just because everyone else is doing something you aren’t doesn’t make you inferior or a bad person. The time will come whenever it’s right. Just be patient and continue to love yourself for who you are <3
Nothing to be ashamed of. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 29. Under no circumstances should you ever feel pressured by anyone to lose your virginity as soon as possible. It’s your body so it’s your choice, no-one else’s. You lose it when you feel like you are ready to do it.
Most people I know didn’t lose their virginity until they were in their 20’s, which is a good time to lose it anyway. When you’re 16, you have no idea what you’re doing. Things are awkward. Communication isn’t that strong. You don’t even know what you like. You ask any person what it was like to lose it as a teenager and most would reply it wasn’t that great, they expected more, they felt weird, it was whatever, etc. Waiting until you find the right person is totally the way to go IMO, and any decent people would never shame you for that. It’s fine to view sex as casual if that’s your thing, but I and many others view it as something special to be shared with someone you care about. What’s to be embarrassed about?
20 and I barely lost my virginity last month, I promise no one thinks of it as much as you think they do haha
I’m 20 and a virgin. I don’t want to shame anyone who’s had sex earlier but with culture now I understand the pressure of needing to be sexually active to be cool or seen as attractive in a way. But do it because you want to not because you feel the need to. Especially when it comes to sex because if not it can fuck with your mental health
Mine was on my 13th birthday in a cemetery in Plymouth MA. Both drunk on Riunite wine.