My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months now, and today we were in my bed and he asked me how our sex life was in my eyes. I don’t know if this is a bad thing, and I have been upset all day because of how he posed it, he told me that he loves having sex with me still and still finds me very sexually attractive, but he feels like our sex life has slowed down. I don’t know what to do or how to feel because this is my first real sexual relationship that has been serious, but we have also been busy and have been having some ups and downs within our relationship. Still, we worked them out together and are now fine being together and such nothing with infidelity or anything of that matter. I am just worried that I am becoming boring to him in bed, and I don’t want that to happen because I don’t want us to lose that it’s been very fun for both of us maybe things just get slower over time, but I don’t really want that to happen. I don’t really want to lose him, I love him so much any advice would be appreciated. He has also stated that he has been off and on sexually and asked me if I was taking any meds because I guess I have depleted in sexual wants as well, but I have a lot going on as well. He said id we ever got to a point where him and I stopped having sex, he would still love me and stay with me, and he wouldn’t go to others to fulfill these things.
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What are you asking for relationship advice on?
Sex slowing down isn’t an insult. It’s just a statement of fact. It happens in a relationship.
You could ask him why he feels it happens less, and if it’s true you two can try to find a solution.
It’s not something to be upset over.
He didn’t say you were boring unless you forgot to mention him saying that.
We have less sex is not the same as we have boring sex.
I think the first thing is: This is completely normal!
You are existing your honeymoon phase in your relationship and in your sex life too. This doesn‘t necessarily means your relationship is over and you won’t have sex anymore.
BUT, you need to look out for two things:
If you want concrete solutions about how to proceed: Most of the time it helps to find new ways things in the sex life. Try new places, try gadgets, try positions. Everyone is different. If you change it up, just talk about what you like and what not. But talk, talk honestly.
Sounds like you and your BF just had a healthy conversation about sex? Don’t read too much into it. He said he loved your sex-life, and just noticed that the frequency and slowed down. Probably wondering if it was because you were dissatisfied with your sex-life or something else. Maybe just reassure him that you are satisfied.