My girlfriend (20F) of 3 years recently was intimate with my coworker (25M, I’ve known him for 1 year), and I (20F) honestly don’t know what to do.
My coworker had a crush on her and asked if he could be with her. She had been curious about trying something like that, and I thought I would be okay with it, so I agreed. All parties consented.
When the day came, I had to work, so she went to his house instead. I thought I would be fine with it, but when she came back with visible marks and told me about it in detail, my stomach dropped. I felt instantly sick and have been struggling ever since.
I know it’s not really her fault since we all agreed, but I can’t stop replaying it in my head. I feel like I lost something in the relationship that I can’t get back. I love her deeply, and I know she loves me too, but working with him makes this so much harder.
I don’t want to lose her, but I’m having a really hard time moving past what happened. Can anyone give me advice?
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You are 20. You have figured out that you are a monogamist. Your girlfriend not. Break up. Nobody is wrong. Nobody. But you deserve the intimacy that will fulfill you. I know it sucks but it’s not with this person. Because you’re different. Nobody is the bad guy. But you need to move on.
The fact that you agreed to this at all and especially with someone who keeps in contact was a really bad decision. The amount of things that both of you will have to do to try and repair your relationship is probably more than you can do unfortunately.
Honestly it might be over buddy. The moment you let your significant other be with another person is the moment the relationship goes downhill. And you have to the see the person who had his Willy inside your gf everyday? Cut your losses twin!
You now know at least two things. You want a monogamous relationship where trust is super high, and this tramp isn’t for you. Next time she won’t ask for your consent. Move on now and find the right woman.
Is there a girl you want to bang? Ask your GF if it’s OK.
Bang her, then you’re even.
How long has it been since this happened? Give it time, see if you can move past it. If you can’t let it go, break up.
I think you should let her know you will never be ok with anything like this happening again. In case she believes this will be an ongoing thing. I wouldn’t be surprised if she sleeps with him again anyway, but you of course know her better and may feel differently.
So you gave your girlfriend permission to f.uck a guy, and now that she has, you’re upset?
Your coworker is lucky he asked a pushover that question. Most people would’ve felt an urge for violence and certainly spoken to HR.
You however just let him have his turn. Contemplate that.
Buddy, you can say no to things.
I don’t know if am wrong, but why the heck should someone make a decision to share his girlfriend in the very first place. By default that would hurt so much and common sense doesn’t allow this bullshit.
Seriously get a job anywhere that doesn’t involve either gf or coworker. As of now it’s like salt poured in the wound.
lmaoooo now what the fuck typa shit is this ¿
Seek therapy for being unable to enforce your own boundaries. And you need to find another girlfriend, this relationship is done. She does not love you and preferred another man to fuck her.