So im doing long distance with this girl and i can tell she’s been hurt ig in her previous relationships she doesn’t open much, and i try my best to understand but sometimes i do get frustrated and I feel like im the only one trying and she smoked to get high and we had an argument about that and she said she was going to give it up as she only did it to cope ig with her cutting issues but now that i was in the picture she feels like she doesn’t need it anymore but i just cant seem to help it and think she is still using it but lying to me
I know I have trust issues due to my previous relationship and I believe it’s that but sometimes she makes excuses that are very hard to believe and makes my overthinking just go maximum level and I dont want to insult her by confronting her about it hurting her feelings but the overthinking is killing me I’m not really sure how to approach this situation and the type of person she is because I dont want to hurt her and have her smoking and cutting herself again but then I’m hurting myself mentally with all this overthinking
TL;DR: I’m not sure how to approach this situation due to her mental health issues she’s had in the past and I dont want to her to continue with her old ways by hurting her in confronting her when she wasn’t smoking again