Basically we go to college together but are from different parts of the country. There’s a festivity in her city on Saturday and she often mentioned how much she loves it. I never pretended to be invited because she never mentioned it so I just accepted it. But sometime ago a friend of us asked her in front of me if she was happy to go to this celebration and if I would have been with her. I said as a joke “No, she didn’t invite me” and she after asked me if I was offended because of it. I reassured her and told her that it was just a joke.
Today she told me, next year would you like to come with me? (Keep in mind that the celebration is on saturday). And I answered a little offended “It would have been better if you didn’t mention this” . I explained that I’m not stupid, I had already understood that she didn’t want me to go with her, because she ALWAYS wants me to go to things with her, even the stupid ones…so it was strange that she didn’t ask me anything now. I also said that it was ok if she didn’t want me but that it felt like a mock to tell me to go with her NEXT YEAR. (I’ve already met her parents at her house, that wasn’t the problem).
She told me that she just had never thought about inviting me this year and that she just thought about it today and that it’s just too late to organize anything for saturday… All of this didn’t make sense to me and we kept arguing until she admitted that she lied and she obviously thought to invite me but didn’t want to do it because she wanted to stay with her parents (actually she will go out with her friends, I already know it because she had previously told me this. Also, what would it change next year?) and she admitted (I had already asked her if this was the problem and she had said no) also because of her ex parents that will be around for sure (it’s a little town).
I’m really angry right now but just because she lied to me and also acted when we were arguing like she was the victim and I was making up some crazy shit (I had told her that it wasn’t possible that she never thought to invite me and that I was sure that her old bf parents had something to do with this).
We are together from 10 months and she got with me 1 month after her last relationship. They ended on bad terms after 4 years and his parents acted childish by talking about it to her parents and made some bad comments like accusing her that she left him for another one (they didn’t know anything about me yet, no one knew, but that’s not entirely true I came up in the picture when she already wanted to dump him. They had already talked about this). But formally everything is ok.
EDIT: We argued and talked again. Basically she doesn’t want his parents to see us together because she lives in a little town and doesn’t want them and his family (they have already done that, people told it to her parents) to spread voices about her betraying her ex. Her father also told her to be cautious with our relationship to avoid this..
But another argument came up. 1 month ago we went on a trip together and made a lot of photos. She talked about posting them on her insta (also pics of us together) and kept saying how much she was happy for the trip. She actually posted some insta stories but of monuments etc. , not a pic about us (we had taken plenty of them because we wanted a memory). Now I’ve found out that she didn’t post me because of her ex’s parents (all his family follows her on insta) . I felt a little betrayed since that trip was a gift for my birthday from her, posting everything BUT ME on her instagram bugged me, especially after all her talking about how much she would have liked to post about the trip.
TL;DR My gf doesn’t want her ex’s parents to see us together to the point that she avoids going to a celebration that she really likes with me because of them. She also doesn’t post me on insta for the same reasons. Her reasons are understandable since her ex’s parents are childish but I still feel a little betrayed.