Me and my partner have had a really bad argument. We’ve had a pretty rough past and had a lot of issues along the way, he was stalking girls etc. he has stopped this but tonight it blew up again, he’s said to me that anyone will cheat but it all depends if it meets a specific situation/criteria. It needs to be the right conditions, time, person, situation etc for it to occur. I full heartedly do not agree with this, if you love someone then u won’t cheat and that’s simple. How can I trust him after this? I just need insight into others opinions
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No, not everyone will cheat. With that said, men are most likely to cheat if they consume media where women are viewed as objects, and women are most likely to cheat if they feel emotionally neglected and unloved by their partner.
If someone says “anyone will cheat,” it’s because they do or would.
>>ability to cheat
>>will cheat
These are not equal statements, which one are you upset about?
God, he sounds dumb. Try replacing “cheating” with any other fucked up thing:
“Anyone will murder, but it all depends if it meets a specific situation/criteria. Am I right? Self-control is only based on external circumstances. Cause if they could, they would! Of course!”
DUMB.
No not everyone cheats. I’ve never felt the need to and I never will. It’s not about the situation, it’s about the person. A cheater will always take the opportunity to cheat, a loyal person will stay loyal even if he has boobs right up in his face. Point is, your boyfriends probably just a cheater and trying to ease you into whenever he does cheat
Something my therapist said: anyone can cheat, it doesn’t matter if they say they won’t or are inherently against it, if the circumstances create the perfect condition it can happen, just like how life evolved to begin with
You can’t trust him. Clearly he’s open to cheating. Leave asap
I agree with him. Each and every one of us can and would do shit that we judge others on if our circumstances were different. That’s why the saying “There but for the grace of God go I” exists.
I have boundaries because of this very belief. I’m not going to hang out alone with other guys, for example. It sounds really noble to be like “I love my husband, I’d never cheat” (and don’t get me wrong, it’s like a 99% chance that I wouldn’t) but I think it’s naive to just forget that I’m a human being with weaknesses and the ability to fuck up.
Yes.
Next.