My boyfriend and I have only been together for 6 months, but I already feel like we’ve run out of things to talk about. For context, we used to talk all day, every day, and would randomly call each other. But now, it feels like I’m always the one initiating conversations—telling stories about what I did or asking random questions just so we have something to talk about.
Sometimes it gets boring, especially when his replies feel so robotic. He does listen, but he never really digs deeper into what I’m saying. He just rephrases what I said, and then that’s it. I’m the one who has to bring up a new topic, and the cycle repeats. I don’t feel mentally or emotionally stimulated anymore. It’s just surface-level talk most of the time.
Eventually, the conversation ends with him asking, “Have you eaten?” or “What time is it there?” And when I say I haven’t eaten yet, he tells me to eat—and that’s it. To be fair, I also don’t have much going on right now. I just graduated and I’m currently unemployed, so I’m resting and taking my time. As for him, school hasn’t started yet since they’re still on break.
I don’t know if that’s a factor, but when I stayed at his house for two days, I noticed that they don’t really do anything at home. They just scroll on their phones all day. It’s like a routine: wake up, eat, scroll, sleep. He doesn’t have any real hobbies besides playing mobile games and reading manga. Could that be the reason he has nothing to talk about? Or are we just burnt out from always talking too much in the beginning?
Or maybe he’s bored, just like I am?
Lately, I’ve tried giving him space throughout the day and only sending updates in the morning and before bed, so we can have time to miss each other. But honestly, I’m not used to this setup, and it makes me anxious.
What should I do? Is he losing interest, or is he just naturally boring? He’s okay when we’re together in person, but over text, it feels like he’s not the same anymore. I read somewhere that men sometimes need space to appreciate the relationship—so how do I give him that in a healthy way?
TL;DR:
Been with my BF for 6 months. Our chats feel one-sided. I always bring up topics while his replies feel shallow. I’ve started giving him space, but now I’m anxious. Is he losing interest, or is this just a phase?