Just as the title states.
I’m 35 and have had a few encounters with this guy at a gym I go to. We both take an afternoon group class and he has been helping me with my form while the instructor was helping others on and off during class. He is super funny and nice and we have similar personalities. He is thoughtful and cool but I’ve been getting flirty with him. Well he asked me for my number and I was feeling adventurous so I gave it to him. I had no idea he was under 25. I thought he was 27 at least but no he is 23… well long story short he has made it clear he wants to hook up with me and I kinda like sexting and flirting so I’ve gone along with the fantasy. Now he wants to actually follow through and put it into action and idk how to feel.
Half of me sees this as just a sexting fantasy on my end and not sure how anything would actually feel or play out irl. Sure I’m horny and he is hot but I’m not one for casual sex really. std safety as well as mutual respect has always been a priority for me and usually when make plans it’s with someone I can really expect both of those things from. On the other hand I’m very tempted, I haven’t really been intimate with anyone since February 2024 when I broke up with a short term boyfriend.
Thoughts? Experiences?
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Go for the hook up, if you both vibe. You’ll miss it when you get older! You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Make sure to protect or get him tested!
Totally your call. I date younger casually but to me 23 is a wee bit too young. Personal preference is late 20s and older.
Wear protection. But get on it and live that fantasy.
I mean, I feel looked 27 and carried himself maturely enough for you to think he was 27, and you are attracted to him, then why not?
I’ve had this issue a couple of times now. Anybody I chat up in public, I think that their late twenties and they end up being early twenties… as 33F I can somehow only manage to make friends with 21-23 year old! I guess we should take it as a compliment that we look closer to their age, lol.
I can’t imagine it being good, good.
Could be fun, but expect to get jackhammered lol. YMMV but I have found guys that young are enthusiastic but not exactly patient
I say go for it. Nothing wrong with having fun but make sure both parties are clear.
I love me some hook up fantasy sex
He’s probably bad in bed, but if you don’t care much about orgasming, are okay instructing him and just want to have a good time, why not?
I’m 36 and this would be too young for me if I was single. However, I don’t view this situation as being the same if the genders were reversed because we live in a world where men inherently have more power. That is, there are people who would respect and listen to this 23 year old man over you, a 35 year old woman. I don’t have as much of an issue with same sex age gap relationships for the same reason, although of course some can be predatory also. Take that as you will as it seems to be a relatively unpopular opinion (and I’m ok with that!).
Personally, it icks me out. I only dated younger, and I realized pretty fast how many guys in their early 20’s have MILF or “older woman” fantasies (I was even younger than you when I was being prepositioned for these fantasies). I no longer date anyone, but I learned pretty fast to avoid men below a certain age (not that I was remotely interested in the youngest of the bunch, who were 21).
So here’s the thing. I think it would be great fun. I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone so young, but fun times could be great. Where you have to worry imho is if he catches feelings. At his young age, it is entirely possible that you, the more experienced partner, seem like a fever dream to him. Because of your experience in the world, you know? And I would end it immediately if that happens, mostly because he is so young and his brain isn’t quite fully developed. Of course if he is more mature than his counterparts, maybe it works I don’t know, he is several years above legal. But hopefully he’s 25-27 before something like that happens.
Oh and don’t tell him how mature he is. That is a common thing that older men tell younger women to make them feel special. Instead say things like “I like your company” etc.
I’m 37 and have a 24 year old lover. If you’re both consenting adults and you aren’t going out of your way to pursue young men to manipulate them then what is the problem?
I’m finding it really normal for men under 25 to hit on me lately but I’m not usually into them. Just this one guy. I wouldn’t usually even go under 30.
I’m not a proponent of casual sex or hooking up (for my own self) but his age isn’t the issue here. You’re both consenting adults.
Have fun. Use protection.
Doesn’t matter how hard they were pursuing me, 23 just feels kinda not right at this age in my life. I would definitely be taking a kid gloves approach at the absolute most.
Ask for a recent STD test then enjoy yourself! I’m 32 and hooked up with a 25 year old a few times and he was so much better in bed than the 38 year old I just broke up with. So you never know!
Have fun 😅
scroll his socials back as far as you can. still hot?