I’m not sure if it’s my looks or my personality, but I just can’t find a guy. I just genuinely think there is nowhere out there interested in me. I’m on dating apps in my area but have a really hard time meeting anyone. Pretty much all the girls I know at this age have had multiple significant others at this point in life. I’m feeling embarrassed. I think my parents are even starting to question why I’ve never brought a guy home. I just chalked it up to my looks but there could be even bigger issues at play. I have really bad self-esteem issues but I am well educated. I recently graduated college with a major in neuroscience and minors in biology and chemistry. I don’t even know how to start. I’m very embarrassed and feel worthless…especially when I see girls my age or younger getting married and having kids. What do I do?
23F Never Had a Boyfriend Never Been In Love
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You’re still young and sometimes when it takes longer to find someone you really love. You’re probably so pretty that people are too scared to go and ask you out
If you really feel like it’s eating away at you / killing your self esteem, then do some research on a “makeover”. Could just be the way you’re presenting yourself (hairstyle / clothes / posture / body language) that isn’t really inviting / complimenting your figure / face.
Check your face shape / body shape, what kind of spectacles / hairstyle / sunglasses / clothes / Color will suit you best.
Be more wary of your posture and body language. Are you being inviting or indirectly giving “stuck up cunt” energy because you’re insecure and closed up.
People used to tell me I seemed like I was such a bitch, because I used to be insecure and didn’t smile + my energy seemed hostile.
Now, I’m like a ray of sunshine.
You’re 23. And you ain’t missing out
Just looked at your profile and it def ain’t your looks 😂
It’s definitely NOT your looks (assuming that’s your photo in your profile)
How many guys have you asked out??
There is no timeline on life. Must love self first. Join gym, volunteer charities, join activity clubs. Put yourself out there to find joy. Be open to it and it will happen … good luck
If you really do want to meet people I would recommend taking up space, talk about what you like, dress in what makes you feel good about yourself, and stop overthinking everything especially the lack of previous success. Looking at your profile I assure you that it isnt looks holding you back
Are you sure you want a boyfriend? Some people are aromantic or asexual. Not saying that that is the case but if you only want a partner because everyone else thinks you should have one it’s something to consider
I don’t think it’s your looks at all! I actually believe it’s our looks that attract the right people to us. I can understand feeling pressured but there’s no reason to feel that way. Maybe you’re just being picky and waiting for the right person, which is honestly a great gift to have.
I’m sorry but it’s probably a rule 1 & 2 problem.
Avoided at all costs. It’s the best thing in the world but it’s also the reason everybody’s bitter and spiteful. It’s the worst drug on the planet.
Definitely not your looks at all. Your education, degrees and such may intimidate some guys. That’s a good thing…you don’t want to waste time on those.
Looked at the picture you posted and you are gorgeous. Guys are probably afraid to talk to you… especially if you don’t actively flirt with them or go to parties where people mix.
Join some activities where you can meet some people, join a gym and attend regularly, get yourself out there
I checked your profile. Any guy would be crazy not to take you to coffee. He’ll id take you to coffee and talk about your education. Medicine fascinates me. I tend to go more natural sciences vs western science. But I’d love the chance to debate your stance and all that.