I (23M) have been friends with this person (23F) for around 2 years. A year ago I told her that I found her attractive and she said she thought I was a great guy and really liked my personality but that she was too busy right now to be dating. We have been seeing each other in a social context more often now and she seems to be able to have more free time and she has not dated anyone in the time that has passed. I’m wondering if I should ask her if she was actually interested in me in that sense and it was only time constraints why she did not want to pursue more. Is that too blunt? I don’t know if she finds me physically attractive or if she even likes my personality in a romantic sense but we get along well.
TLDR: friend said no to dating due to time constraints a year ago, wondering if I should ask if she is free now or if she was even interested in me.
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That was her way of rejecting you nicely; she’s not interested in a relationship with you.
Sure, you can ask her if she’s interested in dating you now. She’s the only one who can tell you whether it was truly bad timing, or not.
Most likely that was the polite let down and she isn’t interested. She knows how you feel, if she was interested she would start probing to see if you still are.