For context my fiance 23F is babysitting her best friends baby for the day. We took him with us to have dinner with my family this evening. On the way back home she tells me “oh yeah I forgot to tell you that tinder was randomly downloaded on my phone.” “ The baby must’ve clicked on it somehow without me noticing because he’s been using my phone to watch YouTube”. I 24M didn’t really say anything in response because I wasn’t too sure what to say honestly. She had tinder downloaded before we met but to my knowledge hasn’t downloaded it since. Our wedding is in the upcoming year so I would find it weird that she would’ve done that herself. Is it possible the baby (2yr old) would’ve accidentally clicked the download button from an ad or something? Or is this me being gullible? We’ve been together for 5 years.
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No ways 2 years old is downloading tinder. lol. Come on.
She’s lying
Why would she even tell you in the first place
Dude: relationship counselling or wedding plans get paused – let her make the call.
I’ve never even seen an ad for tinder so I doubt a toddler accidentally downloaded it by clicking an ad. she’s trying to cover her ass.
It is you being gullible. If Tinder was being pushed to her from an ad- that means she’s using another type of dating ap or googling singles in her area. I’ve been with my man 12 years. YEARS. And I have only had a dating apppushed towards me once and that was in like… 2014 when algorithms didn’t know wtf they were doing. Ads are targeted towards what you look for. So either she has been using another dating app and it pushed Tinder to her as an ad? Or she downloaded it but feels weird about her impulsive ass decision.
sorry mate – she’s lying!
told an ex I had it accidentally on phone cuz I “already had the app” earlier and it must have “mistakenly gotten back” but yeah – I was totally lying.
Okay hear me out… I have gotten ads for tinder on YouTube and if she has an iPhone then you don’t need Touch ID to redownload an app you already have.. if there has been no cheating scandals in the past I say she’s being honest
Uh my niece accidentally ordered $80 on Amazon while using my ex SILs phone, so I would say “YES” it’s possible. Why else would your gf bring it to your attention? If it wasn’t the baby, she’s an idiot.
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How would a two year old know what tinder even was
Sure…. Usually you have to tap it and do an additional confirmation to download an app. And why would she think you’d find out if it was an accident and she deleted it as soon as she saw it because she didn’t want it.
Ahh. Saw you said she had it downloaded before. But even with that, you have to go to the App Store and get Tinder to the top and then redownload it.
That is one smart baby. The entire situation is odd.
I have accidentally downloaded games from ads by sticking my phone in my pocket during an ad.
Its not completely unreasonable.
But why say anything about it? That’s the suspicious part. Just delete it and move on
I guess a baby that watches youtube might get bored and like to check out tinder.
End it..accidentally..
Why would she even tell you that she had Tinder downloaded on her phone when you hadn’t brought it up?
Either way. The likelihood of a a toddler downloading Tinder onto your fiancee’s phone is complete b/s and she’s insulting your intelligence.
For whatever reason she is trickle truthing you about something. Expect her to soon drop the fact that she’s been having an affair.
That’s supper suspect. But if you haven’t had any other instances that would make you not trust her, I’d play it slow and cautious.
Perhaps an open phone policy would be good here. Don’t check it. Just bring it up and see how she reacts. That should give you more perspective.
Stranger things have happened, I tried redownloading an app from the app screen and it didn’t make me authenticate or anything so maybe? You can check her app usage if you don’t believe her (settings, screen time, apps). If you don’t have any reason to believe she’s shady, I’d take her word for it, why else would she tell you?
Something about this whole situation feels weird to me, but I will say that Tinder is on the homepage for the Apple App Store. So you only have to click the App Store icon and then click the little cloud icon next to the app. Since she’s already had it downloaded before, it wouldn’t even ask you to confirm. It would just re-download. That’s 2 clicks only and the app is back on your phone. Controversial opinion maybe, but I do think it’s entirely possible a 2 year old could have accidentally downloaded Tinder.
You know her better than we do though. Has she given you any reasons to be suspicious outside of this?
“Somehow” …. Ok
Sounds like she wants an excuse in case someone sees her “active” account. There are just too many steps to download it.
You’re gullible if you believe ttd baby downloaded an app she did not have previously. In my experience of dealing with the opposite sex if she’s willingly volunteering information that the baby downloaded tinder she most likely believes you have access to that knowledge or will see that she has the app and is using the baby as plausible deniability. She is absolutely lying to you. Just a matter of what is she lying about. Ask her to delete it again in front of you and her reaction will tell you everything you need to know.