Hello this is my first “relationship”. It has only lasted 4 days and it’s already getting out of hand. I’m gay and I met someone online who I thought was super nice and we messaged a bunch. However, I could tell he was very depressed as he was often overly negative about himself. We started talking more on the 3rd day and we started developing a crush for one other. However, I had to put a boundary up as he kept wanting me to stay up late to play with him but I am a college student so I made it clear that it’s not possible to be working on school but also stay up late playing with him and he understood so I thought all was well. He also told me he had plans the next day (today) so I was okay with just playing with others and working on school work. Come to find out when I asked him, plans were cancelled so I said we could play sometime today. Then, my friend messaged me asking if I wanted to play after I woke up from a nap and I said sure and I asked my crush if he wanted to play with us. 30 minutes later, after my friend and I got on a different game, my crush messaged me saying “yes if you want me to” then I told him that we had gotten on a different game (this other game was just for me and my friend and my crush didn’t own the game but I thought he maybe was busy as it took a bit to get a reply). I told him though that we’d be back on the game I wanted to play with him sometime later in the night. We got back on the game a couple hours later like I said and I invited him twice then he messages me on Instagram calling me a liar despite me keeping my promise about inviting him and he never joined.
I am stuck on what to do and I understand if I sound like I also messed up. I am not good at plans changing and the last thing I expected him was to say was that plans were cancelled so I had to figure everything out when I already had plans knowing he wouldn’t be online. I also don’t feel like it’s healthy to always prioritize being with my crush as it seems like he always wants me to be there when I’m online. I have other friends also but it just seems like he only wants my attention and I can’t freely be with others without him getting upset even when I promise I’ll invite him and stick to that promise. Again, this is my very first crush, so I’m just not sure what to do.
I am just stuck on what to do because this is my first relationship and I feel awful but I also feel manipulated in a way.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do? Thanks
TLDR; I am struggling with someone who may or may not be emotionally manipulative and I also feel awful because I may have caused it also but I’m not sure at all. I just need advice.