There’s a guy around my age (25F) that I interact with regularly at work (he’s not a coworker, but we cross paths a lot). From the start, there was strong chemistry — long eye contact, joking, lingering small talk, and a lot of mirroring. He only introduced himself to me, laughed at everything I said, brought things to me one at a time instead of all at once (unlike with others), and would follow up on random things like photos or stories he’d say he’d show me.
He’d often walk with me, get a little awkward/shy, and even mirror silly ways I talked. I’m usually cautious about interpreting interest, but I felt like it was mutual.
Then, kind of out of nowhere, he mentioned he was married. It was abrupt, and he never brought it up again — which just made things more confusing. Nothing happened between us, and I’m not planning to pursue anything, but I’m still left wondering if I misread it or if it was more complicated.
Most of my past romantic experiences have been pretty straightforward, so I haven’t dealt with anything like this before.
TL;DR: Had strong chemistry with someone I see regularly at work — lots of flirty, lingering behavior. Recently found out he’s married. Not pursuing anything, just confused and wondering if others have been in this situation or on the other side of it.
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Could be his personality. Could be mutual, I have co workers I talk to that are female the I do similar things with, however they all know that I’m married and there is no affection other then friendship from my side. I have never hide my relationship status in anyway. I am careful to never cross any lines that would upset my wife.
Trust your instincts—he was flirting. I think it’s around 80% of infidelity happens with coworkers. Seeing each other often, shared experiences and traumas (crazy days, clients etc). Sounds like you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and aren’t a home wrecker. Just remember, if you did ever look into moving forward with things, he would just do the same to you and you couldn’t trust him.