We’ve been together for four years, and four days ago my girlfriend sent me a video of herself being intimate with another man(no sex) . According to her, she sent it because she’d been carrying the guilt for a year since breaking things off with him, and she didn’t want me to hear it from someone else or see it somewhere.
But here’s the kicker, they were together for two years. That means half of my entire relationship with her was a lie.
I asked her what happened did I do something bad? She said no, that I’d always shown up for her. She claimed it was because she wasn’t sure I was entirely serious and that I was too stoic, bottling things up and not opening up emotionally. I told her I wasn’t always sure either, but I wasn’t out here sleeping with other people just because I felt insecure for a moment. She had the passwords to every device I owned, while I didn’t even have hers. I was an open book, the only reason I bottled things up at times was because just being around her made my problems fade away. She was like my drug and I always told her and made her feel like that in the best way I could
This is a lady that has always lied and said she had never cheated on me when I jokingly ask from time to time or tell her “don’t cheat me, I don’t know how to forgive that” , she would swear it with God and so on, thinking about it now, it was suspicious.
This all comes after I had proposed to her. And what hurts most? In those videos, she was wearing the gadgets and lingerie I bought her including an expensive smartwatch I gave her. She wore them in his bed during times when I desperately needed her and she didn’t show up.
I was devastated. I took the smartwatch and smashed it, took my ring back, and told her not to contact me until I reach out. I need time to process this and come back or not, she begged and cried so much for me to please come back but I really don’t know if I can. She always made me feel like a king, and I truly saw her as a princess who could do nothing bad. But now I’m shattered, I think I need an advice
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I think you need to leave her. Two years my friend. It took her two years
im sorry youre going through this. i think you should just move on. two years is crazy work. she did not respect your relationship together AT ALL.
This reads like one of those Reddit bait posts highly cinematic betrayal, perfectly villainous girlfriend, conveniently timed proposal, luxury items as props, and a clear “good guy” narrator who never falters. The beats are too neatly spaced: confession, revelation of the affair length, emotional reasoning from her, symbolic destruction of gifts, and a final “I need advice” hook.
If real, you are someone recounting with theatrical precision. If fake, it’s engineered to trigger outrage and sympathy in one scroll. Either way, it’s written for maximum audience reaction, not messy reality.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, that’s an incredibly deep betrayal, and the emotional shock you’re feeling is completely valid.
From what you’ve described, this isn’t just about a one-time mistake. It’s about:
• Prolonged deception (she was involved with someone else for half your relationship).
• Repeated dishonesty (swearing to you she never cheated).
• Emotional manipulation (framing her actions as stemming from your stoicism rather than her choices).
• Using gifts you gave her in intimate moments with another person, which adds another layer of hurt.
Bottom line:
This isn’t about whether she regrets it or whether she “really loves you.” It’s about whether you can ever feel safe and respected with her again. From the facts, she has shown she’s capable of deep, long-term deceit. Even if forgiveness were possible, rebuilding trust after this scale of betrayal is rarely sustainable. Your best path to long-term peace may be to keep that boundary, focus on your healing, and leave this relationship in your past.
Don’t go back.
That kind of disrespect is off the charts and if you accept it, you will be destined to have it happen again.
It sucks that you’re going through this. It’s painful and sad. The truth is there’s nothing here to build on. Your relationship was built on a bed of lies. Someone who loves and respects you doesn’t treat you this way. The lies and betrayal are deep. If you go back you are setting yourself up for years of pain and anxiety.
Seriously what could she possibly do or say that would cause you to be able to regain the trust needed for a healthy long term monogamous relationship? 2 years she was able to keep her affair from you. All the lies she told to conceal her betrayal.
Get yourself into the gym and therapy. Go no contact and block her on everything. Now is the time
to move forward and begin the healing process.
I know this sucks. But you can do and deserve better. The fact that she blames this on you just proves that she can’t even hold herself accountable for cheating. She has learned nothing. She even said she told you just so no one else would, meaning someone probably found out and threatened to tell you.
Mot likely there are more to the story, maybe its not even over between them yet. Maybe there are more guys.
Move on brother.
Need help finding the strength to walk away from her?
Every time she sucked his dick, she would give you a nice, wet, sloppy kiss afterwards. For two years
She cheating on you for years, it’s not worth staying.
Sending you a video like that is about as messed up as it gets. Why not just tell you about it?
She kept the video if it is two years, might be only two weeks old? You don’t know?
Your better off without a cheater who lied to you your entire relationship.
Updateme