I’m 27M, my gf is 35F. We’ve been together for 3 years and we live together. I work from home so I handle the majority of the chores. She cooks but i handle the laundry and cleaning and basically any non cooking related chore.
Lately, I’ve just been feeling super unappreciated. When i do the laundry, i wash dry and fold everything and put up my clothes and any of hers that go in her closet. Stuff that goes in her dresser, she usually puts away herself because she likes her dresser organized a certain way. Lately, she hasn’t been bothering to put her clothes away and just kind of moves them or tosses them back in the laundry basket. I’ve also noticed that she’s stopped saying thank you to me for doing the chores. When she cooks, i try to always thank her and tell her how good whatever she cooked is. I don’t expect a big deal over me doing basic chores but a passing thank you would be appreciated.
Am I over-reacting here ? I don’t wanna confront her about it and turn it into a big thing if I’m over-reacting here. Thanks in advance for any replies or feeback. Sorry if this is rambling or formatted wrong. I don’t use reddit very often.
TL;DR: Doing a lot of chores. Gf isn’t saying thanks or bothering to put away her laundry after i do it. Feeling unappreciated.
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youre not overreacting at all, it’s normal to want a little appreciation when you’re putting in effort. It might help to bring it up gently, like telling her you feel good when she acknowledges what you do, instead of making it sound like a complaint. small conversations like that can go a long way
How is your relationship outside of chores? Also, I would suggest you have a conversation about it , eventually if this continues there is a chance for resentment to build. you want to bring up your concerns, start off by asking if she feels overwhelmed/overburdened by something else that’s possibly causing a pattern shift. I don’t think it’s that deep but if you have been together for a few years, a simple conversation should be able to clear this up and get you guys back on same page.