So I just started seeing this girl about 3 weeks ago and she wants a committed relationship as do I. Shes really into me and always talks about how she wants to make me as happy as possible. Last week she said that if I wanted to she would find another girl to have a threesome with me. I told her no as I said that dosent seem good for a monogamous committed relationship. However since then I can’t stop thinking about it and the thought of it really turns me on. I really dont know how to approach this situation. I want to have a conversation with her about it but I dont know how I should go about doing it? I also dont know if this is really something worth considering. Idk I’d love to hear from you all.
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Tell her that it’s been in your mind and the idea is a turn on. Ask her if she is willing to discuss it. She offered it so I’m sure it’s a turn on for her to.
As to whether you should? Why not, sounds fun
It will destroy your relationship. Full stop.
If you’re okay with that and still want to have a potentially once in a lifetime experience, that’s your prerogative.
It’s only been three weeks. What do you have to lose.
Enjoy the 3some and dont take this girl seriously.
Go with your gut. It’ll destroy the relationship.
As Admiral Ackbar said in Star Wars, IT’S A TRAP
Bruh, fucking go for it. You will atleast have had a threesome nothing to lose. I made the stupid mistake once to deny it, and the girl and i eventually did not commit to a relationship. So am in a steady relationship for some time now, still regret i did not do it at the time…
I don‘t know you well enough to give concrete advice, but let me tell you this: there are WAY more nice women to have a relationship with than there are chances of having a threesome. Picture yourself breaking up with this girl and picture yourself never having a threesome. Then think about what would you regret more?
Huge red flag
Neither one of you wants a monogamous relationship. You have only known her three weeks, but already talked about wanting a committed relationship and she wants to make you happy. This is all very rushed and a recipe for disaster. Have your fun if you want. But it’s better to realize this isn’t about having a committed relationship. Have a real conversation and call it was it is, just a bit of fun. Have that fun and then both of you can move on
Its a trap, it may even be subconscious on her part, as soon as you say yes, she loses respect for you and it tanks any long term viability, she knows this and likely a self sabotage
As a woman, I would say go for it. But don’t expect a relationship to come from it. This girl proposing this only 3 weeks in is… weird considering she says she wants a relationship with you. Sounds like she just wants to explore and have fun. Or maybe you’re the miracle couple where this could actually bring you closer haha /s.
The people in these comments are stupid, many of whom are misogynists based on their comments.
She likes you, and offered you something she thought would entice you. Odds are she did this as a way to try and keep you interested in her; to show you that she can be fun and sexy. This happens more than you think, usually from women who either lack confidence in themselves or come from toxic relationships where they were made to feel like they constantly had to spice things up to be wanted.
Think with your brain and heart on this one, not your dick.
Just do it but don’t expect anything long term with this girl. Lol 😂
a committed relationship would NEVER require the need of another person, especially intimately. that’s a quick way to eventually break up. don’t waste your time with that, hit it and quit it bro
Consider sexual health too.
She was testing your commitment. You passed, now stop thinking about it before you ask and make it worse.
every guy should have a 3some if he’s into it. if you jump on this with her, don’t expect to much from the relationship. in my opinion group sex only works with unattached people. unless you want the swinger life style, it’s not going to work out with a committed relationship. someone always gets jealous and hurt. having a threesome is not a committed relationship lol. shes got some issues to work on.
when i was about 21-22 i had a 3some with an ex girlfriend and her college dorm friend. we dated in HS and then a few years later she was close to where i was living, we were both in college. it was the perfect experience since no one was dating each other, it was just young experimentation and my ex was super cool about casual sex with me in college.
This all depends on the individual. Maybe you’re ok exploring a polyamorous relationship. I think it takes a specific type of person to go through with this. Maybe that’s you but if you know it’s not the manage your expectations like the others said. 25 and under I feel like still allows for a lot of growth
Buddy she’s not asking for an open relationship, she wants to make you happy
You should ask her why she offered-
If it’s something SHE is also into- threesomes can be a kink you both share but you can also be emotionally and otherwise monogamous
I would see what she says before you bring the idea of actually doing it back up
If she tells you that SHE is into it, then I would be honest with her that you hadn’t previously considered it but as long as SHE is comfortable- that you would TRUST HER fo EXPLORE this
Phrasing is key here
There’s 3 possibilities as to why she asked
1- she’s testing you, 2- she’s insecure and thinks this is a gimmick to get you to like her, or 3- she’s into it too and wants to do it
The way you phrase things and progressively enter the conversation will dictate how well the conversation goes
But if she is the one that brought it up-
I would do the above
Dude, I’m 44 and I’m telling you that if you don’t do this, you’ll get to be my age one day and regret not doing it.
It’s a threesome man, absolutely go for it. May only get that once a lifetime!
It’s 3 weeks not 3 years just fuck,
Only live once get it done if the offer is there
This is one of these times where everyone is saying go for it. You need to go for it. Now.
starting a relationship with a threesome is wild. maybe shes a keeper, maybe she’s good for right now and not for life. regardless you’re still young. i’d do it
You are only 22 , first get to experience every thing be it good or bad before committing to something or someone. You’ve got nothing to lose in this scenario except your time and feelings.
Some men drown while others die of thirst
This was probably a toxic test from your gf… on the other hand good luck getting an offer like this again if it’s genuine
OP That seems pretty early in a relationship for that subject to come up maybe your new GF is actually bi? The fact that she put it out there and actually said that she could find another woman who would want to participate probably means that she has done the same thing with that woman before. Or you’re a stud with a huge one and she is so enamored with it she wants to show it off to all of her friends. Either way take the threesome and have a great time. Be forewarned though and ask yourself would you still want to do it if it was you and another guy and her? Because with three ways it almost always ends up going there too.
It’s ok to tell her you change your mind and you are exited by this perspective.
Have a nice time champ’ 🙂
If she’s the one offering it up you can bring it up to see if it’s on the table. If she’s not into it or it was some sort of test well it’s just been 3 weeks so doesn’t matter anyways :).
Dude, stay away from that. Sounds like it could be a test on her part. Why the heck would she offer you a three-way 3 weeks into year dating?
>she said that if I wanted to she would find another girl to have a threesome with me. I told her no
bro wut
If you don’t do it, you’ll regret it down the road in life. When life gives you lemons…
Just assume that this will be your life if you were to become committed to her. Enjoy it now, if you want to, but don’t consider her long-term partner material.
Look, statistically, at this stage and given the circumstances it’s supper unlikely that she becomes your wife. Go for it and enjoy the moment.
could also be a relationship test
If it intrigues you then and she offered, then I’d say there’s no issue with you bringing it up again if you wanted to, but be careful how you approach it.
She may have said it as a test or genuine, but you can’t know that. Id be curious as to why she offered, and if it did happen, would she then want a devil’s threesome? Would you be open to that?
In my eyes, if my SO offered it, I’d question whether it was a one-off or a turn in my turn situation. I dont fancy watching her get dicked by another guy (selfish I know) but would love a threesome with her and another girl. However, because of my preferences, im happy missing out 🤷♂️
Do it. But set out expectations for each very clearly and what is off limits.
28 and still acting 18, the girl is going to no doubt cheat down the road
I was walking down the street minding my own business when a leprechaun called my by name and offered a pot of gold. Should I take it?
Dude you’re 22 and have been seeing this older lady for 3 weeks. Have the threesome
I say do it if its real. Not really much to lose. You are 22.