Hey everyone so today I said something which I believe should not have been said.
We were having a discussion about styling which she said she has improved for me (buying and suggesting cloths for me), me being mean said it depends on the person as well who you are dressing.
She then said I used to dress up her exes, which I took on my ego and said the name of the ex and started criticising him for no reason.
After me criticising him she was protecting her saying he used to look good, had great biceps and everyone was crazy for him.
My insecurity got triggered and I replied that my ex used to maintain her self as well for that she asked how she used to maintain, to which I replied that she had great hair, and then my wife said she have great hair too, to which I replied she had better……..
She took this as body shaming and I feel extremely bad for saying what I said.
PS: planning to take therapy because I am outspoken and say mean things which I regret immediately.
TDLR: Said something mean to my wife during a discussion
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> She then said I used to dress up her exes, which I took on my ego and said the name of the ex and started criticising him for no reason.
I am having an aneurysm trying to decipher this sentence.
You used to dress her exes? What the fuck is happening here
Ask yourself why your moment of insecurity made you want to lash out and hurt your wife. Because that’s what you did. You went out of your way to hurt her because… checks notes she said she’s helped you and her exes all dress better.
Come on, dude. Do better.
You do realize that the problem is not that on this particular occasion you both were pretty much idiots, right? The sole possibility of an argument about this topic and the way you both approached this basically instantly as a shaming competition has way deeper roots than just being accidentally mean.
You both have problems with each other that you are not discussing in other times. This will keep growing and occasionally exploding like just now. You guys need to talk more.