Like the title says, the guy I’ve been dating for 6 months doesn’t want to meet my 7 year old son yet.
Last month he asked me to meet his sister and her kids so I thought we were moving to the next phase of our relationship.
Logically to me I thought, well you need to meet my kid to see if you could integrate into our family if things go well down the road.
I’ve never introduced my son to anyone and so I didn’t take the thought lightly at all. I was just kind of sad and embarrassed that I offered the meet up and he refused.
Specifically he said he was not ready and scared. I was very understanding and still am but now I’m thinking I should take a step back in the relationship.
TL;DR: Boyfriend for 6 months not ready to meet my son.
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Meeting the child of someone you’re dating is way different than meeting their siblings. It’s okay that he’s not ready for this after 6 months, and probably for the best.
It’s way more serious to introduce to a kid than a sister. A kid gets attached and doesn’t understand breakups.
6 months is about the absolute earliest I would consider doing this, so wait a bit longer. Him having consideration for your kids feelings and the seriousness of it is a feature not a bug.
I waited a year to meet my now husbands kids. The divorce was fairly fresh for them.
You’re pushing this too fast.
I wouldn’t want to meet a partner’s kid unless I knew the relationship was seriously going to lead to marriage. My mom was constantly bringing new boyfriends around us, I always got attached then sad when they would leave.
6 months is enough time for him to get used to the idea. Your son is a big part of your life, likely the biggest, and he doesn’t want to know that part of you? Time to rethink this. Your priorities and his do not seem to align.