We have been together for almost 6 years now. Lived together for a year and currently on LDR. We see each other once or twice a year for a month.
LDR is not a problem; we have worked that out pretty well. The problem we have is that we always argue when he drinks a bit too much. Arguments are over stupid stuff, for example, we were drinking together, and he made a remark as to why I am not drinking as much if I wanted to drink and have fun. Or we argue over a stupid debate. It’s just stupid and random.
A bit of a background – my partner is super nice, lovable, respectful and caring. We have always gotten along, our relationship is not dramatic, and we’re just pretty chill. We make our relationship work depsite being LDR, we hang out almost 24 hours in our video call every day.
Back then, we had the same problem. He thought maybe it was because he drinks liquor, so he completely stopped drinking liquor unless we are drinking together when we see each other. He drinks beer only now. And yes, it lessens the bickerings.
Now we have the issue again, even if he just drinks beer, he still drinks a lot, and we bicker again. Not very often, but maybe 1 or 2 a month, sometimes more.
I’m just tired of these stupid arguments and honestly don’t know what to do. I do not want him to stop drinking because we both love drinking together. lol. If he does want to stop drinking, it should be a decision he makes for himself, not me asking him. So, any advice on what to do? I honestly have no idea what to do. Should I just leave because of that? Am I just overreacting? If you are on the same page, what would you do?. O.o
TL;DR:
I’ve been in a happy, chill relationship for almost 6 years. We’re long-distance now, but we make it work and talk almost 24/7. The only issue we keep running into is when my partner drinks too much—even if it’s just beer now, not liquor—we end up arguing over the dumbest things. It doesn’t happen super often, but when it does, it drains me. I don’t want to ask him to stop drinking because we both enjoy drinking together, and I feel like that decision should come from him. But I’m also tired and unsure if I’m overreacting or if this is something I should seriously reconsider in the relationship. I’m just not sure what to do anymore.