Hello, I (33F) have recently started to feel lonely and like I am missing out on certain aspects of life that I believe a relationship would fulfill. AKA I’ve been feeling lonely. The problem is I am very self aware that I have an avoidant attachment style which has led me to being 33 and never having been in a serious relationship.
I greatly value independence and tend to feel smothered when I feel things getting too serious with people I’ve dated. When I’m lonely I tend to seek out a partner with intentions of going for a long term thing but usually end up chickening out. For example the last guy I talked to everything was going great but the more he would text me throughout the day, the less interested I became until I started to feel smothered.
I know 100% it is a me thing and I have to work through it but I just want to know if anyone else has found themselves in a similar situation and overcame it? Is it worth trying or are relationships something I am just not destined for me? Any insight on how I can improve?
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TL;DR 33F with anxious attachment style looking for a relationship but unsure if it is possible.