Last year my partner and I were told we had low fertility, after trying for a year for a baby.
My friendship group in my home town at that point all either had kids or were due in a few months. We talked to them all about the news and they were very sympathetic.
Then, in December we discovered we had gotten pregnant! Only to then lose the baby at 9 weeks on Christmas Morning.
I had never experienced that kind of grief before and was in a really dark awful place for several weeks.
I’m out the other side now and getting back to normality, but I can’t shake a feeling of resentfulness towards my friends (particularly the girls- who have known how hard the fertility process has been), that most of them didn’t even send a text to ask if I was ok… for 3 months. Eventually I just started turning up at social events and they engaged with me again.
We’ve been thinking about moving away from this town for some time, and whenever it’s mentioned in a group setting I hear “but you’ll lose your support group” and I really want to say- where was that group this year??
I’d love to just let it go, I don’t know how to express how I feel – or if it’s even fair to, any tips on letting it go would be really helpful!
TLDR; I want some advice on how to let go being resentful about my friends not checking in on me when I was grieving.