My boyfriend of 2 years makes me feel like I’m unreasonable and crazy. Please give feedback!
He and her text good morning/goodnight every day. They talk immediately on the phone after work (he calls her first before me). She will call/text randomly around 2am on weekdays. She demands that he always answer or she gets very upset and screams at him. We will be having se x and she’s always blowing his phone up. I’ve asked him numerous times to speak with her to not call after 10pm, yet she still does.
She demands that they go out once a week after work (10pm – midnight) and he CAN NOT be on his phone whatsoever with anyone or me. My friends have seen them out together and they told me that her hands were all over him. She’s VERY flirtatious. Today, she demanded that he leave my house and go have coffee with her at 9am on a Tuesday. He proceeded to go; even after me in disbelief standing in my garage. My boyfriend doesn’t even go out with me once a week after work!! Let alone morning AM coffee!!
I’ve met the lady. She s a 70 year old lady and she DOES NOT like me. She will be rude and snide to my face while my boyfriend stands there and says nothing. She even told me that he is single until he is married. She’s never been married/no kids. She’s only friends with people in their 20’s/30’s. Weird. She tells him he’s handsome and they both say “I love you “ on the phone.
I know this is NOT a normal “friendship”. But he brainwashes me by saying she’s “like a mother to him”. He says I’m jealous of her. I have zero jealously of a 70 year old woman. I’m 37 and quite the catch….. I don’t understand whatsoever why my boyfriend has her as his main priority.
I have blocked him and broke up with him today after the whole 9am coffee “date”. Please tell me I have been delusional for the past two years and that my boyfriend MUST have some kind of emotional/physical relationship with her. How would a girlfriend respond to this in my shoes?
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Girl you were the sidepiece to a septuagenarian. This woman was acting like a jealous girlfriend and your boyfriend was going along with it. He repeatedly prioritized her over you. Even if he wasn’t having actual sex with her, this was some sort of hybrid of emotional and physical affair.
> I have blocked him and broke up with him today after the whole 9am coffee “date”
Good! Let them play out whatever fucked up Oedipal narrative they have going on. Not your problem anymore.
The fact that he says you’re jealous about a 70 yr old grandma is weird. She’s like a mom to him? No mom acts like that with their child. He has some serious issues to allow her behavior. You did the right thing in breaking up with him. He will probably fuck his own mother figure soon 🤢🤮.
That’s so messed up. And disturbing. He seems to be so easily manipulated. I’m sorry. Does he have guy friends that can help him see what’s going on and bring him back to earth?
A GF in your shoes would also break up with him and probably sooner. Your BF allowed blatant disrespect of you and your relationship. He was also putting another woman at a higher priority. None of that’s OK.
You did well by dumping his ass. He’s probably her sugar baby 🤢
Calling after hours and letting it happen more than once? Uhm no, I doubt even his actual mother acts like that towards him. Matter of fact I don’t think any mother acts that way towards their kid. Who’d be up that late at that age? Damn, I’m 35 and I’m out by 8:30 lol. Anyway, good luck with everything. I’m sorry you had to go through that but always trust your gut instincts.
Your boyfriend is not able to set boundaries… he knows damn well this isn’t a “like a mother” relationship lol. We know you’re not jealous of her, but it was a good idea to break up considering his lack of boundaries could easily bleed into other parts of the relationship. That’s wild I’m sorry that happened to you
Even if this was his actual mother or grandmother, it would be an unhealthy, controlling, and co-dependent relationship. You have a right to feel imposed upon.
His lack of sensitivity for your feelings, and his not recognizing why this behavior is problematic, says more about him than his weird attachment to someone twice his age, who clearly has feelings for him.
Dump him!
I bet if you checked his computer you’d find a bunch of elderly porn
She was definitely showing op who was top dog..>why else would you call at 2:00AM
I don’t think her age matters. Anybody acting like this is being crappy — at any age — and there’s absolutely no way your boyfriend should have been indulging it.
She sounds like a typical “i’m gonna be rude af to the young woman but i’m gonna flirt with the man” type of mean old lady
Your boyfriend probably is relatively innocent and naive. Most girls would be too if we hadn’t met old women like this who treated us like competition. He probably genuinely sees her as a maternal figure & she sees him as her sweet young thing who wants to get in her grNny pantiez
You’re stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I would stand your ground & invite yourself as the 3rd wheel. Make sure you show up with enough sass to shush her up if she gets too sassy.
Something is off, run!
You definitely did the right thing! Can I ask if he has mommy issues?
Good job dumping him! Let them be weird together.
There’s more to this story . This sounds made up or at least left out important details. It’s too one sided
This guy gets gum jobs
Idk why it took you so long to do it