Hi all,
I just had a question for everyone here. How unusual is it to be a 37 year old male and never had been in a romantic relationship? Nothing has gone past a few dates? I wonder if there are stats for this and if anyone knows anyone in there social circle like this….this got brought up in a conversation and most people thought it is highly unusual…. Does anyone know anyone in their social circle who is like this? Just curious , it feels like 95% of people who have had a romantic relationship by the point.
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Hi all,
I just had a question for everyone here. How unusual is it to be a 37 year old male and never had been in a romantic relationship? Nothing has gone past a few dates? I wonder if there are stats for this and if anyone knows anyone in there social circle like this….this got brought up in a conversation and most people thought it is highly unusual…. Does anyone know anyone in their social circle who is like this? Just curious , it feels like 95% of people who have had a romantic relationship by the point.
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We must be a rare kind.
Not rare, it’s easier being single. 👀
I would suspect it’s actually a lot more then most people think. Not everyone is going to admit it either.
I think there was a movie made about this…
Don’t have any stats, but I am the one in my social circle like that. Only a couple years younger.
I agree with the other comment here saying it’s probably more common than you think/some wouldn’t admit it.
I’m 35, and in my social circle I’d say almost a third have never been in a relationship. Five are married, three of these also have kids. I’m divorced, no kids, and I have one other friend that’s the same. Then there are three other guys who’ve never been in a relationship: two don’t even have any desire for it, and one wants to be in one, but has just had no luck meeting any ladies who are interested in him.
way more common than you think, i am single and given the financial issues not being single can create “when” they leave, its a nightmare.. I would also say many are in a relationship and its not a real one as it should be. I would argue (and have for many years) that i will always be single, however there is a nagging background thought that says this might not be true although i dont see how thats possible… i get random thoughts like that and they come true beyond any control of mine.
I know 2. One at 38 and another at 32ish
It’s a few percent in my cohort. Probably 5 percent or a bit more
I have a mate of mine who is now 60. He hasn’t had a romantic relationship since he was 21.
I have another mate of mine who is slightly older who hasn’t had one since his divorce over a decade and a bit ago. And another guy I know who is half my age who has never had one. And that isn’t even delving into the women I know who have been single all their lives (like one 82yo aunt and another 75yo aunt).
You only hear about the ones who have had them because the people who haven’t aren’t exactly singing it from the rooftops.
Edit; And no, none of them are gay.
It’s all about incentives. If he isn’t highly motivated to get a romantic relationship, then he probably won’t do the work to reach that goal.
IDK, to be honest, all of my brothers/brothers-in-law/male cousins/uncles had been in a relationship by that age.
I personally met 4 men like this. 2 were engineers, one was IT and last was renter of mine. He lived inside the apartment, working out of the apartment. He just played games all day.
54 here. Never dated or have been kissed.
It’s pretty rare. It seems like most if not all men have some sort of romantic experience before they reach their 30’s. After that, it becomes unusual and it becomes a wonder as to why women never saw you in that way. I say this as a 30 year old in the same boat.
r/FA30plus
Thank you for raising awareness.
I am 39 yrs and have never been into a proper romantic relationship. Had a short fling with someone but that was more sexual than anything else. I actually disliked her right from the start, lol.
A variety of factors lead to this, some of my own doing, and some external, and mostly because of a lack of social circle and circumstances where meeting new people is difficult. I did try a couple of times but was rejected so there’s that.
Sucks to be you.
I don’t know any men who admit to such a thing nor would I be interested to ask so I don’t know if it is rare or not. It’s not something a man would want to share.
I have a 51 year old male friend who has never been in a romantic relationship. So there are at least two of you.
I’d say it’s pretty rare and honestly not healthy. I think a lot of people are kidding themselves if they’re saying they “just didn’t find someone” by that age. They have some kind of serious mental or physical problem which is holding them back.
There’s something socially wrong about you. Whether you admit it or not, maybe you are too childish, or a bad person, or a closeted gay, or completely asexual. I’ve seen not good looking friends getting girls (maybe ugly ones) but girls. Maybe something about the way you was raised make you undateable.
I’m not sure how common it is. But I can tell you that I’m a 36 year old man who has never been in a relationship.
I’ll be honest with you, that’s pretty rare.
People saying, “That’s completely normal!” in this comment section are lying through their teeth to make you feel better.
That said, it doesn’t mean anything negative about you. Maybe you’ve never met the right one yet, maybe you’re aromantic or asexual, I don’t know.
But in the normie world, that’s not a common age to never have had a romantic relationship.
Who cares if it is unusual…?
How would it affect your life if you knew how common or uncommon this was? I would say your happiness is more important than how rare your situation is.
If this is something in your life you would like to change, then take steps to change it. If you are happy with the way things are, stop worrying.
My brother is now 62 and never really dated and has never been in a relationship. He has almost no friends. He has enjoyed his career and “hobbies”.
I can’t say I know of anyone else. Data from the General Social Survey shows that at 37 only about 3% of men have not had sex. That’s really low but if you consider that would be 1 in every 33 men that age, most everyone probably knows one or two at least. I know this isn’t the same as having not been in a relationship but it is the closest statistic I know of.
On the other hand, I am now dating again in my 50s and I am surprised by how many women that age has never been married or even in a serious relationship. They focused on careers and now want a committed relationship.
I know we all want to know how we stack up, but try to focus on what you want. If you want a relationship work on finding one.
You may be insecurely attached line many of us. Look up Avoidant Dismissive attachment. We avoid relationships to self protect, but we miss out on a lot of life.
Do you think you’re aromantic?
Tengo un amigo que hasta los 32 no había tenido nada romántico, no se sentía cómodo con las mujeres. Resulta que era gay, él no lo aceptaba y estaba bloqueando esa parte de su vida por puro miedo (su familia es muy conservadora). Con terapia lo fue dejando y hoy es feliz con su novio
very rare, what pen through high school and college and workplace and the internet, the only good reason is its his choice