Im upset at the fact my girlfriend gives her phone number out to men that hit on her, or the fact I’ve caught her having inappropriate conversations with men specifically ex’s. Or the fact she likes to be touchy with men she is conversing with in bars or shake her ass against men’s crotches. She sure likes to make me feel like it is normal by saying she didn’t know it was wrong to do those things with me because other partners didn’t care. Meanwhile if I even entertain a conversation with a women away from her or in front of her I’m in deep trouble and make her uncomfortable and it doesn’t matter how brief the conversation is. Makes me wonder what would happen to me if I did the things she did. I’ve addressed it with her and it’s basically like it’s my personality and who I am so deal with it. I’m at a complete loss. She has truly shattered my confidence with this behavior mixed with the fact she will hit me in the face, call me b**h and tell me to shut the F up during disagreements and arguments and will introduce me to others as A*hole. She considers me one because I confront her on her behavior and hold her accountable on things I find unacceptable. Obviously I know the answer and that’s to RUN as I don’t see someone her age being able to drastically change this behavior as it’s probably too ingrained in her by now but unfortunately we live together
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Yeah, not normal brother. But more important is how does it make you feel? I’d feel pretty shitty
No self respect? Dump her.
Break it off to save your dignity & a continuous roller coaster ride of emotional hell for yourself. You deserve better. Do not allow any woman to b.s. you. You know what you need to do…dump her selfish butt.
The writing is on the wall and the choice is yours.
As a 42 year old, I would expect you to understand what you’re dealing with.
You know what it is… The double standard situation.
She can go mingle with men in public, hand her number out. Its all in good fun. Deal with it, just how she is.
Yet, if you were to do the same, its hell to pay and you’re the problem. Not cool if you do it.
I have no advice because all I can say is that you should be completely aware of what you’re dealing with (which looks like a big problem).
If you want to sign up for this. The consequence is yours.
If you’re smart, you’d recognize the red flags and away.
Not going to hand hold you here.
You know dam well what you’re dealing with and its your choice to continue or not.
If continuing and back fires, the finger is pointed at you for ignoring obvious red flags and mysteriously shocked at the results.
She’s gonna cheat.. it’s just a matter of time.
Pop smoke and exfil bro. She does not respect you.
She’s an asshole. She has shown you she is an asshole, she has told you she is an asshole and won’t change and the solution is “deal with it”. So deal with it by leaving.
You expressed how you felt. She’s telling you straight up to just deal with it. If you can’t, leave.
Also, it’s conversing just for future use!
Run. This would be unacceptable at half her age, she’s never changing.
She gives out her number? 😆 My friend…what?! In what world is that okay? That’s where “sorry so have a boyfriend” is supposed to go. You’re single & don’t even know it.
One last thought…a woman who treats you like dirt in front of you, knowing if she saw you talking or flirting with other women she would be angry, is a narcissist. That is a beeatch who eventually will dump you when a guy shows he’s interested & available. Any way you try to convince yourself this is love, you are wasting time when you could meet a real decent woman who loves you for who you are and respects you. Do not tolerate abuse, because that is what you have now, a selfish, narcissistic person who only thinks of herself.
Ask why she is projecting her desires to cheat onto you. Point out the only reason to get some other guys phone numbers is because she is interested in cheating on you.
Cut that cancer out of your life.
you lost me at conversating
We can talk about her behavior with other men, none of which I consider acceptable despite me being really laid back in terms of interactions with others (I have zero issue if a girlfriend of mine hangs out alone with a male friend or even has a platonic sleepover). She is doing things that are overtly disrespectful to you as a partner, because her romantic and sexual feelings should be only with you, not with others.
But your very last sentence is really the only truly important part. Why would you consider staying with someone who is physically and verbally abusive to you? Please, I urge you, have some self confidence and self respect, and immediately break up with her. You should have done so the FIRST time she was abusive.
I didn’t even touch on how much of a hypocrite she is. That’s almost an afterthought given the rest of it. My gosh, what a nightmare of a woman. And she is basically *my age* (I’m 46). This behavior wouldn’t fly with me if she was 20.
A) she’s a hooer