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I am a dad with a 10 week old. I don’t know if we have split 50:50, but I’ve certainly done a majority of the bottle washing and cooking, laundry is come and go, I do all the dishes.
I just don’t get what leads to a man thinking the above situation is ok or desirable. Do you not what a good home life?
So men who have known people who are like OP’s husband, what motivated them? How did they get there? What were the results long term?
Most importantly, if you have an example of how a man changed for the better, how? Why?
If he’s useless, he won’t be missed. Start secretly recording interactions where he refuses to do any work and shouts at you. Don’t threaten or cue him in on your plan to leave him. Good luck! Everyone, including you, deserves to be happy.
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I am a dad with a 10 week old. I don’t know if we have split 50:50, but I’ve certainly done a majority of the bottle washing and cooking, laundry is come and go, I do all the dishes.
I just don’t get what leads to a man thinking the above situation is ok or desirable. Do you not what a good home life?
So men who have known people who are like OP’s husband, what motivated them? How did they get there? What were the results long term?
Most importantly, if you have an example of how a man changed for the better, how? Why?
If he’s useless, he won’t be missed. Start secretly recording interactions where he refuses to do any work and shouts at you. Don’t threaten or cue him in on your plan to leave him. Good luck! Everyone, including you, deserves to be happy.
How did you not discuss this before the baby came? Anyways, we’re not your husband, so we can’t do anything.