Hello everyone! I’ve never done this kind of thing before but maybe this will help me & possibly meet others who are going through the same thing as me. My boyfriend (27M) & I (21F) have been together for almost 6 months & in the beginning we used to be intimate like a lot but for the past 3 months we haven’t been sexual whatsoever..he hasn’t tried & I’ve brought up the conversation multiple times especially w/ how I felt & what we could do differently…he pretty much told me he kinda grew out of it & has already experienced everything so he feels like he doesn’t need to always have sex. He tells me he loves me & so on but I feels the opposite of that..we’ve had multiple conversations about this issue & it seems to not be resolved- he gets my hopes up & honestly I feel like I’m in a dark hole. If this is normal or something let me know..if anyone has some advice or willing to pop up & help I’d much appreciate it.
6 months into relationship & my bf stopped being intimate with me..what’s going on?
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Six months in is supposed to be the honeymoon phase, not the ‘I’m already done’ phase. The fact that you’ve brought it up multiple times and nothing has changed shows he’s either not interested in working on this, or his priorities are very different from yours. Both are valid, but compatibility matters. Don’t ignore your own needs to keep the relationship alive, it’ll only hurt more later
End it.
It’s called sexual incompatibility.
It’s why having sex with someone before marriage is a good idea.
I wouldn’t stay in this relationship.
He doesn’t have to change. You don’t have to accept it and can move on to a new relationship.
That’s what dating is for.
Move forward, note, not on.
Go forward and find someone who is deserving of your affection.
He definitely is not your rock.
This sounds like a huge red flag because intimacy fading this early can signal deeper incompatibility or emotional distance. You deserve passion and connection so if he’s unwilling to meet your needs despite repeated talks it might be time to rethink where this relationship is headed.
Three months in and he’s already acting like a retired monk? Nah, that’s not normal. If intimacy matters to you (and it clearly does), don’t settle for ‘I grew out of it.’ That’s not how relationships work. You deserve someone who’s as into you as you are into them — emotionally and physically. If he can’t meet you halfway even after you’ve been clear, then you’ve got your answer
Perhaps he’s more attracted to men and was just ‘testing’ himself with you.
Yo, honestly? This ain’t about him ‘growing out’ of sex at 27, that’s some BS right there. Sounds like he’s got issues he ain’t addressing, and it ain’t fair to string you along like that. You’re young and should be enjoying life, not stuck in a libido-less relationship wondering wtf is up. I’d say confront him, if he’s unwilling to work on it, bounce. You do you, sis. Life’s too short for this kinda nonsense.👊💯
What happens when you try?
How is the rest of the relationship
Yo, I’m just a rando on Reddit, but here’s my 2 cents: Sounds like ur dude’s got some personal stuff goin’ on. Maybe it’s not about sex at all, y’know? Clear out the noise, ask him straight up what’s up with him. Outgrowing sex ain’t normal IMHO, unless he’s dealing with something heavy internally, mentally or physically. Either way, bottom line: You deserve to feel wanted and loved. If he ain’t giving you that 100%, girl you gotta rethink. Self-love first, always. ❤️👈🏼 Don’t let anyone dim your light, sis.
Heyyy , I totally understand where you’re coming from. The grass may not always be greener on the other side, so sometimes it’s worth giving a little more time to the relationship especially if he truly treats you well, respects you, and shows his love in other ways.
From what you shared, it doesn’t sound like he’s fed up with you or falling out of love. A lot of times people get comfortable in relationships and the chase or excitement of the beginning naturally slows down. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t value you it could just mean he feels safe and settled with you, which can change how he expresses intimacy.
I’m not saying you should devote yourself blindly or ignore your own needs, but being patient and open can sometimes help. At the same time, it’s okay to set boundaries and remind him that intimacy whether physical, emotional, or both is an important part of a relationship for you.
Maybe try shifting the focus to emotional closeness doing fun new things together, creating fresh experiences, or even exploring intimacy beyond just sex. Sometimes reconnecting in different ways brings the spark back naturally.
But also remember, your needs matter. If you continue feeling unloved or unfulfilled despite giving it time, that’s a sign to reassess whether this relationship is truly right for you . But for time being be patient.
Your bf has issues or is no longer interested in you sexually. At your young age I would seriously find someone who is more compatible with you. If not resentment will set in and you will break it off anyway
You just might not be compatible in that important department.
If he cannot meet your needs and desires, or fails to work on that, you might want to reevaluate your relationship.
Did you stop giving him blowjobs? If all you want is sex and nothing else, that’s going to get boring for most men.
Maybe he’s asexual? Or on the spectrum?