Hi
So, my gf got of her work shift, and a guy approached her, he asked for her socials and she said she didnt have socials but she could give her number, the guy said do you have a bf, she said no i dont you can have it.
This came to ligh because this dude, is actually a friend of my friend, so they told my friend and he told me, i met up with this dude to hear the story. The texted they exchanged were this
Him: Hi, its me from earlier, do you live around here
her: yes but im gonna move for my studies to Y
hIM: oh i used to live in Y
her: oh was it nice there?
him: yeah but i like it here better
her: then she said she doesnt want anything and that she had NEVER had a boyfriend so she doesnt want anything with him and then she blocked him.
Obviously i confronted her about this. She told me she was going to tell me this on a day we didnt have an event planned, the interaction happened friday, saturday we had an event and saturday i found out. She was going to tell me sunday she said.
I told her she cheated on me and she ruined my trust completely, i wont tell everything just the key details to make this as short as possible.
Then she said she was overthinking the entire shift, and that she told herself i hated her, that she was overthinking everything and all our previous fight. Then the guy came and she admits she was just happy to get validation cause in her head, i hate her. She is a big overthinker i know this. She is also a people pleaser, she has always been. SHe told me it was the mix of people pleasing and getting external validation when she felt alone. She admitted she is completely wrong for this and needs to work on herself a lot, and that this is completely wrong to take this validation and attention from other people and that she wants to work on herself.
We are currently in a 1 week no contact to both think things trough. I kinda wanna believe her since she did block him after 3 texts. But obviously this is cheating.
FYI: we have been together for 1 year, in this time she has done everything i asked, and has sacrificed things cause i said it was a boundary for me. Can i believe this is just a genuine 1 time slip up.
TL;DR: gf gave number to guy, can this genuinly be a 1 time slip up
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Bro, no. She’s not even taking accountability and making a bunch of lame excuses and offsetting responsibility to you. Leave this girl behind. Breaking up was the right choice. You’re young and will date many girls in your future. Don’t waste time with a girl who does stuff like that.
She needs to work on herself before she can be a good partner to anyone
Not only did she willingly give out her number, she lied and said SHE DIDN’T HAVE A BOYFRIEND.
Don’t go back to her. You’ll never, ever be able to trust her again.