AITA for saying no to babysitting after my sister insulted my job?

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My sister asked me to watch her 3 kids last weekend so she could go to a wedding. I work from home and had a project deadline that same day, but I was still willing to rearrange my schedule to help her out.
When I told her I’d just need a quiet space for a few hours to get my work done while watching the kids, she laughed and said my online job isn’t real work and that I sit around all day.
That comment really bothered me because I work hard and pay all my own bills. I told her if she didn’t respect what I do, then I wouldn’t be comfortable helping. She called me selfish and hung up.
Now my parents are upset because she had to skip the wedding, but I feel like I was doing her a favor and she was the one who ruined it with the insults.
AITA?

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    My sister asked me to watch her 3 kids last weekend so she could go to a wedding. I work from home and had a project deadline that same day, but I was still willing to rearrange my schedule to help her out.
    When I told her I’d just need a quiet space for a few hours to get my work done while watching the kids, she laughed and said my online job isn’t real work and that I sit around all day.
    That comment really bothered me because I work hard and pay all my own bills. I told her if she didn’t respect what I do, then I wouldn’t be comfortable helping. She called me selfish and hung up.
    Now my parents are upset because she had to skip the wedding, but I feel like I was doing her a favor and she was the one who ruined it with the insults.
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  3. nuggets256 Avatar

    NTA “don’t bite the hand that feeds you” feels appropriate here

  4. yellowjacket1996 Avatar

    NTA, tell your parents they can watch the kids if they’re so upset.

  5. Fantastic_Mix4110 Avatar

    Take back your control. No more babysitting unless it’s for someone who’s paying you. People make good money doing that. You saved her a fortune.
    Hope she enjoyed it while it lasted.

  6. ScarletNotThatOne Avatar

    Leading with an insult isn’t really the best way to ask someone for a favor. NTA for turning her down.

  7. Mira_DFalco Avatar

    NTA 

    I don’t know why it’s so hard to understand that working from home is working,  not sitting around getting paid to scroll wastebook. 

    Then again,  it’s probably indicating what these folk would do if they ever got a W@H job.

  8. Acrobatic_Chef180 Avatar

    There is no need to skip the wedding. She can pay a babysitter, like a normal person.

    If your parents have a problem with it, they can babysit.

    Don’t babysit again since she doesn’t respect you or your job.

  9. momowag Avatar

    NTA – she didn’t/doesn’t respect or apparently attempt to understand your job. She mocked you. Her kids are ultimately her responsibility. If she was not willing to pay or could not find a babysitter, that’s on her. Your parents have no place to shame or get mad at you about anything. At the end of the day, they’re not your kids. Just because you’re family doesn’t mean you’re obligated to babysit or rearrange your life. What if you didn’t live in the same city? What would she have done? Is your sister willing to have done something to supplement your income if you couldn’t get your work done? Your sister needs boundaries and manners.

  10. kiwimuz Avatar

    NTA. For a start it is none of your parents business so they can keep their noses out and opinions to themselves. As for your sister – you are under no legal, family, or any other obligation to watch her kids. You are also not expected to be criticised by your sister about your job. No more babysitting.

  11. Smarterthanuthink867 Avatar

    NTA. Good for you for saying no after she insulted your online job. Obviously you’re making good money if you pay all your own bills. If your parents are that upset she had to skip the wedding why didn’t they watch their grandkids? BTW my hubs works from home. He has a 6 figure income. Your sister can suck it.

  12. Tassle15 Avatar

    NTA can’t insult people and expect them to help you.

  13. 1arse Avatar

    How are you this many years into a pandemic and transition and still be like this?

  14. Main-Sea7782 Avatar

    I’m not sure insulting people is the way to get what you want, just saying. You my dear are not the ah. Your sister on the other hand, along with being a choosing beggar definitely is. So isn’t Mom… for that matter… My two cents your mileage may vary…

  15. celticmusebooks Avatar

    Why didn’t your parents babysit? Why did she think should could insult you and you’d still be her free babysitter? LOL

  16. Due_Cricket1885 Avatar

    Damm your sister must be dumb as rocks to expect anything from you after she insulted you

  17. Josie-32 Avatar

    She didn’t want to go to the wedding anyway or wouldn’t have waited until the last minute to ask you with no other plan in mind.

  18. Careless-Ability-748 Avatar

    Just read all the similar posts for your answer.

  19. friedsherbert Avatar

    NTA. Ah she’s one of those.. thinks a wfh job is not a job lol. Does she work? Surely she can pay babysitter for a day 🙄

  20. Jane-Austen-101 Avatar

    From one remote worker to another you were not wrong or an AH in any respect. Those who believe that working from home ‘isn’t real work’ clearly are just putting themselves as lazy fools who couldn’t do what you do.

    As far as going back on agreeing to watch her kids, you were just matching her energy. 

  21. johnnycomephilately Avatar

    NTA. The real issue is she can’t regulate her mind/mouth well enough to get the outcome she needs—that’s selfish.

  22. Fit-Combination-6211 Avatar

    NTA, she missed the wedding because of her poor behavior, not you. You have a job and deadlines are important. Good for you for standing your ground knowing that your sister could have messed with your employment.