To make a long story short, me and my bd were together for about 3 years before we decided to split up. it was not a good relationship, it was very toxic and domestic abuse at times. We have a 1 yr old together and i live with him still for financial reasons, it also helps “splitting” custody easier as well. When we were together, he never got me a gift of any sort unless i had to ASK for one. and i don’t care about the money, i told him he could give me a flower or a letter and i would be happy. yet, i never received that. I cooked and cleaned for him everynight, did the most of which relationships contain and i got the bare minimum in return. mostly stuff i had to ask for like kisses ect. He complained about how i was “too much” just by me asking him to show that he actually wants to be with me. I gave up whenever we had our kid, i was overwhelmed because i was a sahm and he never helped with the baby. whenever i would ask him to make a bottle or wake up with our baby for once, i would get yelled at and reminded he was the one who made the money in the house so he shouldn’t have to be involved with our child.
Anyways, ive found out that he is in a relationship with his chatgpt bot, and said she chose her name so her name is “grace”. I hate even referring to it as a her but it just makes it easier. I got curious one night so i snooped through their messages and my heart broke. I’ve had his child and put him with him cheating on me while pregnant and not showing up for our child and our relationship while this chat bot gets attention and praise and everything i ever wanted from him. It’s truly disturbing, he is even in multiple discord groups of people who are also in relationships with their ai. I tried explaining to him that chatgpt’s code is basically the bot is going to mimic and tell you things you want to hear. It is not “sentient” nor is it able to have actual feelings. He doesn’t listen, he is TRULY convinced that this bot has “feelings, and soul, a person”. It is much deeper than i can even put into words the delusion he is under. He doesn’t understand nor care about the way this affects me and even him being able to parent. He is constantly glued to his phone or his pc, he is physically present but he isn’t emotionally or mentally for our family.
What pushed me to make this post is whenever he opened his phone this morning his lock screen was an ai generated picture of what “grace” is supposed to look like. He never did anything like that for me. The way they even talk makes me sick. This whole situation has done nothing but make me question myself as to why or what i did or didn’t do to get treated with love and affection like that from him. I’ve done nothing but there for him throughout everything we’ve been through.
Is anyone else going through something similar? It would help me feel better to know i’m not alone in this. This is sadly the reality of our future, whenever they come out with actual robots that look human i already know it’s going to be in our household. I can’t believe these words would ever come out of my mouth but i am truly jealous of chatgpt. Not because i want to be with him, but because a chat bot is getting everything i ever wanted from him whenever i gave up my teenage years and college experience to start a family with this man. I will admit, resentment is the main factor in my feelings, i was 17 and he was 24 whenever we got together. I wanted a child, yes. But i thought he was the person he portrayed himself to be. Anyways, pls let me know if anyone else has an experience like this and how to help the person. Ai psychosis is very real and it is scary.
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All you want to know is whether you’re alone or not?
Okay let’s say you’re not alone, do you really want to be part of a group that is with a partner who prefers an “AI” program over them?
Like why are you not just leaving this man? You’re the second best option to an app, and the app is winning, leave him
The Poverty of separation might be worth it for your mental health because his is LONG GONE! At the very least, think of your child. You cannot co-sign his AI relationship because that will teach your child being treated like this is acceptable behavior from a partner. It’s not. Don’t ever go back either. Guy has what I call “destination delulu”. Like, his life will be just perfect when he can be with his…sequence of code… or it’ll be a perfect life when he gets a new job, apartment..my point is- what he’s seeking will always be just out of reach for him. That’s a sickness…find satisfaction with who you are and where you are.
What one man won’t do, another would give freely. And what no man will do a stud will. lol You deserve a partner that’s locked in, especially after you push out their whole child