I broke up with my gf because she didn’t have sex with me anymore. There was no legitimate reason. I would have stayed if there was a genuine reason (like something medical). I didn’t want to bring it up again and again so I decided to end the relationship. I believe we weren’t compatible and desire cannot always be negotiated
Edit: legitimate reason merely means I would have stayed despite no sex in the relationship. She has the right to deny for any reason
AITA for breaking up because my gf did not have sex for 6 months ?
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NTA.
INFO. Did something change in the relationship? Feels like there’s a lot of missing information here other than just it stopped.
I don’t feel like it is a legitimate reason. You make me feel fat and ugly is a legitimate reason. I don’t feel safe with you is a legitimate reason. Yes you are the AH.
NTA Incompatible sex drives can ruin a relationship. Best to get out before you’re trapped in a sexless marriage.
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You treat your relationship like it’s “rent a vagina”. Also you talked with her about it one time, should have spoken with her more in a heart to heart. You didn’t value her, all you wanted was to ejaculate in her like she’s a cum sheath..Yep . Yta.
Ok.. so you have a reason for breaking up. Why you gotta ask the internet for validation?
YTA
“There was no legitimate reason.” She didn’t feel like it is a legitimate reason.
“I would have stayed if there was a genuine reason” She didn’t feel like it is a genuine reason.
Nobody owes you sex, except, perhaps, for a prostitute and in that case, you’d get a refund not nookie.
Breaking up is probably a good thing until you grow up and deserve a real woman.
Yes and No. Technically, yeah you have the right to leave a relationship for any reason especially if you know you won’t be compatible long term and it’s obviously better to walk away than to try to “negotiate desire” or however you phrased it. But at the end of the day you basically reduced her to just a body yeah that is kinda shitty and I can understand why she wouldn’t be interested in sex at that point.
Are you sure sex was pleasurable for her as well? Did you actually go out of your way to make sure you were pleasuring her, or was the sex all about you?
You’re the asshole to yourself for waiting 6 months lmfao
Compatible sex life is important. It’s like one oh the corner stones to a healthy relationship. Someone with a high sex drive and someone with no sex drive simple wouldn’t work because it would be unfair to force one partner to have sex, it would in a different way be unfair for the high sex drive person to just simple be told get over it your needs aren’t important. She is allowed to not want to have sex she might even be asexual and not have the word to express that other then I don’t want to. In a similar vein op is allowed to want to have sex and if having sex outside of the relationship isn’t something they agree on then op is well within their right to leave their partner if they aren’t fulfilling a fundamental need of theirs
How did she react, is what I’m curious about. Did you tell her why?
As a woman here I could not stay in a relationship without intimacy for no reason. Like nothings changed everything is the same no medical reason just they don’t wanna have sex with me anymore? Yea I’m out. Intimacy is important for romance and connection.
NTA. Best for all parties involved.
Same my husband broke up with his gf of 3 years because they barely ever had sex and she was really scared of it generally put off by it. That was 10 years ago and in the future he found someone with a similar sex drive.
No, this is excellent grounds for a break up.
It is perfectly ok for no sex to be a dealbreaker for you in a relationship. You don’t have to justify or explain that to anyone. I’m not sure from your post if you talked to her about it, that would have been a good idea, but no human is at all required to stay in a relationship where you feel your needs are not being fulfilled.
EDIT to add: NTA
NTA
It is better you end it now than later.
NTA, very good reason. Incompatible is incompatible no matter how you slice it. No hard feelings
Why would you be an A for breaking up with someone you’re incompatible with?
I’m pretty sure that six months was plenty of time to realize your needs were not being met, and people on here suggesting that means you just saw her as a sex partner are, pardon me, crazy. I’ve gone for years without a relationship or sex; I’m now 69 and having a very satisfying connection with a man who texts me every day and comes over occasionally for naked fun too. Way better than not having that.
She absolutely has the right to deny
And you absolutely have the right to call it and move on if your needs aren’t met.
NTA.
No thats pretty reasonable. Sexual incompatibility is a very normal thing to break up over, it just sucks cause its not something within your guy’s control.
It sounds like you tried to talk to them & problem solve. So if there was no solution to be found, nothing you guys can really do.
Hope you have better luck going forward buddy
NTA. You lasted longer than most. If she wasn’t giving you any action now, can’t imagine how bad it would have been to marry her. You dodged a bullet.