I want to keep this shirt and simple, as I am not in a good mood after the convention that we both had. Basically, after a long day of work I got home and we called, the first thing he asked me was if I put toilet paper down on public toilets.
I told him I do sometimes, but other times I just let it be. And he went on a rant about how gross that is and that If I was in a unisex bathroom and touched their germs that he considers that to be cheating on him.
He asked me to not go into public restrooms anymore and just hold it until I get home, and was in my eyes, implying that I was disgusting with the amount of times he felt the need to repeat it.
I told him that I’d do what I want and that using a washroom isn’t cheating on him, but he is upset and says that if their germs are on me it is. I told him I didn’t feel like talking right now and hung up the phone, and now I’m just lying here angrily after that stupid conversation.
I don’t know what to say or do now, and I’m wondering what you guys would do if you were in my situation?
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OK your boyfriend is Super pathetic if he thinks that you using public bathrooms is cheating. hopefully he becomes your ex-boyfriend soon because public bathrooms are there for a reason. you deserve so much better. if I was in the situation I would dump my partner as soon as possible because I would not stay in a relationship with someone that childish .
Do you really need strangers on the internet to tell you to break up with this lunatic?
is this even real? girl why are u posting this u know what to do
I’d break up with anyone psycho enough to pretend peeing in a public toilet is cheating. Run. Now.
I think you need to break up on the grounds that this guy is stupid, and you wouldn’t want to take a chance of procreating and passing on those genes. Thanks for sharing though: this is kind of hilarious.
Maybe BF has OCD? It definitely sounds like how a compulsion could potentially play out. Why else would someone get so mad over using the rest room.
Ignore this guy, and potentially drop him as a boyfriend. This is so dumb.
This guy needs serious therapy. He is idiotic.
So, what I hear from him is, “I have failed every science course I have ever taken, but I know I am an expert.”
Look, you cannot fix that level of willful ignorance and hostility. Why do you even want to?
This sounds like a combination of insanely controlling and OCD-related germophobia, which is not something this sub can diagnose, but also not good qualities to have in a partner if it’s untreated and he doesn’t realize this is HIS issue to deal with, that to people don’t have this issue, sounds frankly insane. He sounds like he still believes in “cooties” as an adult.
HOLD IT TIL YOU GET HOME? Come on. This is ridiculous (and literally unhealthy)… and honestly it sounds like he doesn’t want you going out in public at all. Isolating behavior. As many red flags as a hurricane warning at a communist parade.
If using public bathrooms is considered infidelity then call me Tiger Woods
tell him he needs to explore his omorashi fetish on his own, and you’re not participating in it.
Whatever the hell his absurd reasoning is, he is wrong, and cruel. End things and you’ll look back someday sooner than you think like, wow, I can’t believe I thought that psycho was so great.
Your bf is not mature enough to be in a relationship.
So your boyfriend has the mental maturity of an 8 year old and you haven’t broken up with him yet because why?…
Seriously girl, you need to raise your bar, because it’s so low an ant could step over it. Dump babyman. Make better choices.
What about using a toilet that your family members or friends used too? If this is real, block him and move on.
Your EX boyfriend, you mean?
Thanks to Reddit, I’ve realized that there are way more idiots out there than I ever imagined.
Break up with him, this guy is crazy.
He’s either legitimately insane or he’s severely fucking with you and both are valid reasons to end it
If you work in customer service and have to touch money that a man has touched, is that cheating too?
If you use public transport, that would then be cheating too because, germs. Right?
Ask him to make clear lines about what constitutes cheating, and listen to him contradict himself. Then, dump him. Anyone that insane telling you that’s cheating IS cheating. That’s wild projection.
This is genuinely some of the craziest shit I’ve ever heard when it comes to what one would consider cheating. Do not continue to put up with this insanity.
That’s hard to believe – not necessarily implying I don’t believe you, but in the way that I cannot grasp the absurdity.
That’s not a good or even half-decent partner. The behavior is utterly crazy.
your bf is so stupid that it reflects badly on you for being with someone like him. imagine this dunce having children one day and not letting them use public facilities because of those predatory toilets.
Why are you even debating with him ? Do you like to be in a relationship with an idiot ?
Your BF is paranoid and stupid. Dump him.
Your boyfriend is an idiot.
What Monosphere podcast has he been listening to? This is the kind if complete tripe they spout on these podcasts – complete misinformation to justify treating their wives and girlfriends like crap. He is too stupid to have a girlfriend.
Your boyfriend is being a ridiculous idiot. Just existing in the world gets “germs” on you from other people. You don’t have to use a toilet for that to happen. You cannot catch STDs from toilet seats either.
Consider seriously if you want to waste your time with this twit.
You basically told us that your boyfriend is insane. Not just a little weird or peculiar, but properly go-grab-the-straight-jacket insane. It’s not worth the risk. Move on.
my money is on him having an std from cheating and starting an elaborate gaslighting scheme ending up blaming it on you using public restrooms.