My gfs friend group consists of a lot of guys some in relationships some not. Majority of them I do get on with but one of them I have never been a fan of because of him being 31 and hanging around 19-22 year olds. I find out yesterday over text she is going to meet him for a bit but they end up spending the whole day together which includes going for food, shopping and just chilling out. I’m really not comfortable with this and I’m not sure how to speak to my gf about this as I like to think I have full trust in her but she is very much the jealous type. If anyone has any advice or just an opinion? That would be greatly appreciated.
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So they went on a date?
Sooooo a 31 year old Male hanging out with a 19 year old female who isn’t related to him in anyway shape or form is completely inappropriate. Yeah it sounds like they went on a date…. I think you need to tell her that you’re concerned about this. How long have they been friends? What’s the history here?
Wait pause so she is the jealous type, but she straight up when out on a date with another man all day?? That’s so toxic. Absolutely nottt😭
M31 been plowing F19 for at least a year.
She’s not yours. It was just your turn, my friend. Clearly she doesn’t respect you. This is nonnegotiable. Either have a conversation with her and communicate your feelings and obviously set boundaries. Otherwise, she’s gonna walk all over you.
She cannot be ur gf if she enjoys being with other men than u.
Ask her how she’d feel if you went out for a full day of food, shopping and hanging out with a woman who’s “a friend”.
It’s weird, I wouldn’t do it unless my gf knew this friend extremely well or had full 100% trust it’s platonic, but it would only be with her permission regardless.
That was either a date or she’s a sugar baby. Either way, I’d move on.
Have you had a conversation about if you are exclusive or are you both still dating other people?
To be honest, it sounds bit too datey. Unless he’s like a gay best friend it’s something I’d be uncomfortable with.
However, after uni adults of all ages do hang out. As a 27 year old I have friends as young as 19 and as old as 60. You can get a perspective from older friends.
Just break up.. she is in an open relationship and you are not.. even if she is not having sex with her side piece/friend (100% she is in my opinion) but she is still cheating.
Sounds suspicious!