Me and my bf are almost celebrating our 2 year anniversary. We did long distance for 6 months and we moved in after and been together ever since.
I started to dread this relationship. I dont feel attracted to him sometimes and can t even go to bed with him for this matter. It all started with the aspect of cleanliness and organizing around the house. He would never wash the dishes I use, because they were mine, never put my stuff away because it was mine, but I did it for him. I cleaned his desk, washed and put his clothes away etc.
He also has a very close relationship with his mother and i feel it like a competition. He always tells her what I am doing and she gets kinda jealous.
I suffer with severe anxiety and have frequent panic attacks. My family, especially my mom, say that I should be grateful that someone is putting up with this. I feel awful…
He sleeps till noon, stays up all night playing games, goes to the gym the moment I start cleaning and I am not sure what to do anymore.
No one is supportive because they say I chose him and decided to move in with him. He is nice, respectful and caring about me and my needs, but I feel like sincer we are together mu anxiety got worse, or maybe is just in my head.
I have no idea what to do atp, I feel awful.
What would you do in this situation?
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> What would you do in this situation?
Break up and move on. Why would you want to continue dating a manchild?
And stop calling it “help”. You’re both adults, you’re supposed to be partners, both doing their fair share.
That’s a tough situation. Honestly, refusing to do the dishes just because they’re “yours” is pretty childish. You’re supposed to be a team, not keeping score. Have you talked to him about how you’re feeling?
Does he not hold down a job? He’s probably used to his mummy doing everything for him. Have you actually asked him to help out more with the chores?
wow your family sucks. you gotta look out for yourself because your current circle of people will not. dump this bum, and move somewhere else. and get meds for anxiety (?)
I talked with him about it and it is the same thing over and over again. I asked him to throw away the leftovers in the fridge, that I cooked and he said that I should do it because it is…you guess it… mine
Why are you cleaning his stuff when he isn’t cleaning yours? Clean your half and have him clean his half. You’re not his maid.