I made a post last night on whatshouldido after finding out my husband and his friends were sending pictures of their wives (me included) to a group chat. My husband said it’s no big deal and they are his pictures he can do what he wants with them. I was mortified. He’s the only man I’ve been with and who has seen me naked, or so I thought. I couldn’t sleep all night and someone suggested if he’s not going to listen then to send pics to other men and see how he likes it then.
He woke up at 6am and straight away I was asking him questions about it and trying to get him to understand but again he said he did nothing wrong, all men do it, you can’t tell it’s me (my face was in some of them!) and to stop going on about it. I said “so if the photos are on your phone they are yours and you can do what you like and that’s that no one can argue? Ok” he seemed suspicious but left for work. As soon as he was gone I found a suitable photo and then sent it to every single male I know who isn’t a family member. I sent it on WhatsApp as a one time view thing so it couldn’t be screenshot and sent a message with it saying “this is a nude of me. If you wish to open it and see it feel free if not that’s cool too. Have a nice day”.
Within an hour my husband was ringing me calling me all sorts of names. I just quoted his rules back to him but he said it’s different as I had no choice before but now I’ve chosen to show other men and that’s cheating!! The nerve of saying it’s ok for both of us when I can’t consent!!
He hasn’t come home yet even though he’s normally home for 3pm. He blocked me around 3:30pm. This should be a fun evening. Whether I am voted an asshole or not I don’t regret what I did.
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ESH – You both suck, seek marriage counseling and gear up for a petty divorce.
Didn’t happen, but fun idea. NTA
Wait, he sent nude photos of you to his friends without your consent? You need to tell all the wives and dump his ass.
The most Reddit story to ever be written on Reddit by a Redditor
NTA.
It’s your body, your photos. If he can send them to friend so you’re objectified, you can objectify yourself.
I would never share any pics of my wife. Those are between us . BTW she looks like Samatha Fox from the 1990’s and she is all mine 🤣!
This can’t possibly be true.
He shouldn’t be sending pictures of you without your consent.
Every man does not do this.
As far as sending yourself around. Honestly, fair play. Hopefully, he gets the point and you can move past it. But if he digs his heels in and doubles down on being a child… Could have an unhappy ending.
this sounds like a toxic relationship. tit for tat things never end well. he was wrong for doing what he did i don’t think that was the right move. i get the logic for sure but you had to know it was gonna cause bigger problems. delete all the nudes out his phone and don’t send him anymore since he doesn’t respect the privacy of photos you took for HIM. bet he wouldn’t send another one of you to anybody. i would also be telling all the wives of people involved cause this is just weird
>it’s different as I had no choice before
This is called revenge porn. NTA.
What a stupid action. Now everyone has a nude photo of yours that they can share to thousands. At the end, you embarrass yourself. WHY?
Total BS.
NTA you just played by his rules hahaha good story.
ESH – I couldn’t care less about this dumpster fire of a marriage but don’t send someone minding their own business your pics and drawing them into your drama.
I think I’m gonna have to see this picture to determine if this story is real or not.
If this is legitimate, I hope you didn’t just blow up anyone else’s marriage by compromising them with your pics.
If someone I knew sent me a random nude, I think that I would not speak with them anymore. Idk if their SO is gonna come after me because they decided to do immature things. People are nuts. This post shows it.
Jesus you both are awful people
NTA but feel free to send me some
YTA to yourself
(commented without reading any of the context)
Nta don’t dish it out if you can’t take it.
It’s true, I’m the phone, I saw everything
Great move. He is the asshole!
I understand the idea and point you were trying to make, but if it bothered you that his friends saw you, why would you be ok with others. He is the AH as is his friends, but this may hurt you once you calm down.
Going nta. Though really, you should have sent pics of him to all your female friends. Crop out the face lol. That’s the real tit for tat.
I have to agree with everyone though. This whole thing isn’t healthy. But it’s your body, you can send anyone you want the pics.
Can I get the pic too?
There will be an OF link soon on her profile… i see it coming…
Mmmm can anyone get a photo? Asking for a friend….
I just want to see the picture
You described “Revenge Porn”. It is illegal in the USA, both federally and in all 50 states.
Wow, well let’s have fun while he’s gone
Yikes. I think you both need therapy, separately. And a divorce. This was not a good solution to the situation. I understand you don’t care but sending unsolicited nudes to people that you’ve never flirted or sexted with is not consent— you have to understand sending unsolicited photos to anyone can lead to big issues. Were they all single? Did they consent? You’ve brought in innocent people because of your selfishness.
*Sending unsolicited nudes:
“Whether the recipient is an adult and gives consent: Generally, sending explicit images between consenting adults is not illegal in most states. However, some states have laws criminalizing the sending of unsolicited explicit images to adults without their consent.
The intent of the sender: Even if the image depicts adults, sending it with the intent to harass, annoy, threaten, or intimidate the recipient can be illegal, potentially leading to charges of harassment or stalking.
The method of transmission: Laws may specifically address the sending of unsolicited explicit images via electronic means like text messages, email, or social media.”*
Get a good divorce lawyer! And help. Good luck.
Nta. What you do with your own image is entirely your own business. However, his distribution of your image to his friends without your consent is a betrayal of you and can, in fact, be deemed a crime in many places.
That said. While its your own business, what you do with your image and in complete understanding that you were trying to prove a point. Your action could lead to trouble for some if not many of the men you sent your image to if for example they are in relationships and their significant other sees viewing this image as a betrayal. It would be yourself who initiated that. This could make you enemies. It could also cause you yourself issues should any take it as an invitation or interest in your part.
did your FIL give you a 👍 to the picture
Get out, he is sending pics of you naked to who ever he wants. That is SA, he does not respect you at all. Leave.
And then a big crowd came to your house and started slow clapping, right?
Petty is as petty does. I just hope the single life is worth it in the long run. Plus I hope none of those men had partners.
Yeah you both sound pretty awful and spectacularly well matched. lmao.
YTA for making me read this fake ass story.
So it took a quick Google to see that there are ways around that one time use restriction. So if even one of those guys is an undercover creep, you just put an NSFW picture of yourself out in the wild to prove a point.
Other commenters were correct, this is toxic, and you should have found a way to put that group on blast to their wives/partners.
Another terrible fake story.
I really wish these people would at least put in some effort. This was low quality and obviously a fake pathetic attempt.
Need to see these photos to make a judgement call here
Yes
All men don’t do it. I would never even dream of sending nude pics of my wife to anyone, especially male friends.
Your husband is a big time a-h.
This is perfect! Well done you
I read this while eating spaghetti and in stuck in my throat omg
OP both of you are in the wrong. You fought fire with fire and I’m pretty sure all those men are wondering wth is going on in your marriage. You included others in this and now I know for a fact things bout to get messy for yall
IF this is real (strong if), you’re both lunatics.
If your husband is sharing NSFW pictures of you with his friends, he doesn’t love you — he sees you as property. It’s also a crime. Leave him, and at minimum file a civil suit, if not pursue criminal charges. This is appalling, and part of me wants to believe it’s rage bait. Men don’t do this. Boys do.
ETA: Let the other wives and partners know about this too. God I hope this is rage bait.
Did grandpa like it?
This did not happen 😭
At this point you might as well start OF. And get a divorce.
I’ve never done what he did and I would never even think of doing that, ever. So his logic is very flawed because it’s not true.
All men do not do it, only shit human beings do.
He’s an absolute piece of shit! Those were private photos
Not an asshole u shud have sent his nude to all ur female friends
So he’s the ass hole. But it’s sad that you don’t have enough self respect that you sent nudes to every guy friend. Just to prove a point.
YTA
“It’s different as you had no choice before” sounds like a real good man with a real good attitude and he definitely respects you 😑
The only difference here is what’s called CONSENT which he did not have and you did.
YOUR BODY, YOUR CHOICE. He took your choice from you without consent, your husband’s a top notch asshole here.
Y’all both pyscho lmao
Yeah, nah. This screams fake.
Another made up reddit story for farm Karma
Every third reddit post. My husband is a ridiculous man child and always has been. I married him anyhow. Now zi am upset that I am married to a ridiculous man-child
My ex did this to me, sent pictures of me in exchange for pics of other peoples wives/gfs, thankfully strangers but still gross. Looked deeper in his phone and he was also cheating.
What you did is hilarious and justified and I wish I would’ve thought of it, NTA. That being said, let that be your goodbye to him
Rage bait (you suck) or ESH. Either way, you suck.
I’m a man with men friends.
Literally none of them do this sick shit.
We don’t even talk about our girlfriends unless it’s honest advice, or a wholesome picture of couple doing couple activities like, idk…going on a helicopter ride?!
Most normal men do NOT talk about their partner. Especially in a sexual manner.
The whole group needs to be exposed. Should have send the nude to their wives instead of random male friends of your husband.
If this is real you just made yourself look like a complete nutbag to everyone you sent the photo to.
This is mad 💀
Both of you are sick in the head
What’s your whats app?
Should probably post them on here as well, just to really fuck with him
Updateme
You’re both idiots – luckily it’s most likely fake
That was a weird thing for you to do.
But either way that guy is completely worthless. No normal man shows off his wife like that if he loves her.
Anyone who forwards your nudes without consent is an AH.
So instead of leaving the asshole who has been sharing your nudes without your consent with his friends, you decided to share your nudes with even more people? I guess if you had no problem with strangers seeing your nudes, then why would you be upset with him? And if you do have a problem with it, then why would you do that yourself, and why would you stay with him. Everyone in this story is an asshole.
> it’s different because I didn’t have a choice before
Oops, he let the mask slip. This is a control thing. Run. NTA
If this is real tell him what he did was reverse porn
I didn’t get the picture.
he broke the law. This is grounds for divorce and you will clean his clock!
but why do that? turn about would have been to text his dick pic to all your girlfriends.
Are you still sending these out? 😏
I was really hoping she sent a nsfw photo of him
I doubt the story is true, but playing along…..NTA but a fucking idiot.
Couldn’t imagine sitting here and making up something so stupid. Get a life, it’s pathetic
Fake but you would be TA for involving all those other people in your personal nonsense.
I wonder if This is prepping for an onlyfans drop
Did you forget to text me your picture?
I stopped reading after all men do it umm excuse me? I’ve been with my girl for 13yrs I’ve never even had the thought of sending her pics to friends NOR ANYONE for that fact.
Fuck your husband he seems like a bitch.
You two sound like you deserve each other. Yes he is an asshole and was completely in the wrong, but what does this prove and do you feel better about yourself now?
UpdateMe
Either fake or you’re both psychopaths.
How did he find out?
SOOOOOOO, whene r u gonna get him in court for sharing ur nud* without ur consent?
So you send unsolicited illegal photos to a bunch of ppl in revenge
Ok this is fake
Ah yes sexually harassing your friends and family to piss off your shitty husband. The most clear case of ESH I’ve ever seen.
Fake as hell!
PLEASE post an update
No proof no vote
You’re both idiots
NTA Divorce him and let the other wives know what their husbands are doing
How do you people end up married to people like this
yeah stories like these miss the point so hard it’s difficult to believe that they’re true. the story is usually sum up like this….”I told my husband he had betrayed me by doing what he did, he told me it was cool and to chill.” how do I convince him otherwise.
that’s the best part mark you don’t, you leave giving actual consequences and showing that you have self-esteem and self-worth.
a snake bit me so I tried to sit him down and explain to him that him biting me wasn’t okay. the snake told me it’s not a big deal because he’s a snake and that’s what snakes do. so I come to Reddit trying to explain that the snake is not a snake and how can I make the snake understand that biting people isnt okay. jfc.
Depending on your jurisdiction, what he did is a crime. That itself should tell him that he’s fucking disgusting
>I sent it on WhatsApp as a one time view thing so it couldn’t be screenshot
You truly believe this?
Let’s see it then
ILY for this muah!
Dont backdown!
he is a D
Your husband is wrong. Most men don’t do that sort of thing. It’s called respect
LISTEN!!! id kill if a friend or family member if they ask for a pic of my wife, shes mines and mines only and nobody will see her naked they can imagine all day long, your husband is a asshole he has no respect for you and he dosnt understand that a wife’s body is sacred not somthin show around like a toy
I would think it’s pretty hot! If others desire her, that makes me want her even more!
Gross y’all are both for the streets and neither of you understand the concept of consent.
why did you send your own picture to, like, your plumber and your coworkers and whomever else?
I thought you were going to send his picture around
You are both fucked up.
You’re husbands a POS and you are in the right here.
You should have shown all the wives nudes of him since by his reasoning it’s okay 🤷
I want to say NTA but that’s a pretty crazy response. On the other hand I can see how you feel stuck in the situation if he’s just going to wave off your concerns, but involving friends and coworkers is nuts. Also, if he really said his situation was okay BECAUSE you can’t consent that’s some creepy shit. Suffice to say I’m not 100% sure you’re NTA, especially for bringing other people you know into it, but your husband definitely is.