My husband and I have really stopped seeing my mil except once a month visits since having a baby. It’s saved both our sanities, and this is how much we saw her before anyways.
For the first time in 18 months, we had to rely on her for something. Our rv broke down 30 minutes away from her house, and we needed a ride back because it would be about 6 hours before a tow truck could come. We called her at 2:50pm on Monday. She came at 6:00pm. I’m 20 weeks pregnant, and my 18 month old was cooped up in the hot rv having an absolute fit. Turns out she left late because she was…talking to her gardener. On the way home, she kept asking questions about our trip as if nothing was wrong. She finally said “are you mad at me?” I said “yeah, we were waiting on you for over 3 hours so you could garden while my toddler and I waiting in a hot rv for you.”
She tried to play victim with my husband and said “I guess she’s mad” when I ran into the house. My husband said “yeah, of course. You left us hanging for hours and kept lying about when you left.” Her sister, who I adore, is in town tonight. I have to take my toddler to Olive Garden tonight and see this dumb bitch. Luckily, my husband is in agreement we won’t see her for a month after this. I said to seat me and my daughter far away and answer any questions she asks me so I don’t have to talk. I can’t wait until she finds out my sister flys in to watch my toddler while I give birth, I’m not inviting her to the hospital this time, and I won’t invite her over for days after the birth. She’s awful, but my husband is amazing and handles her. Yay mil, this is why we don’t ever involve you in anything.
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I’m glad your husband stood up for you. My MIL used to say the same thing “guess I mad her mad/said the wrong thing.” It implies that you are too sensitive, you are the problem. It deflects from the fact that she was wrong and she is trying to get in front of it to make it that you are the problem. It’s entirely possible she left you that long hoping you would react and she could make you look back. I would avoid her like the plague.
Omg, that sounds like absolute hell. What a shitty thing to do, but to brush it off like it’s not a big deal, that’s just worse. But your DH reads like he’s totally on Team Op so looks like Granny B Late will FAFO.
FYI, it was 102 at the ranch we were visiting on Monday—that’s heat stroke hot. I‘d be livid if the person I called left us in that kinda heat for 3 hrs while she’s discussing aphids on her fucking roses.
She is a worthless loser. WTF?
I wouldn’t leave anybody’s child stranded in a blazing hot RV, let alone MY OWN GRANDCHILD! How TF does she expect you to feel after that? Seriously, I have twin almost 3yr old grandsons. I would FLY out the door and drive as fast as I could to get to them. No excuse she can give for that shit. Best wishes to you for a safe delivery with #2 and I’d love to be hiding and watching when she finds out she’s not invited to be present or even meet baby for several days. I’d make it a couple weeks. She’s hideous.