Long time lurker but first time poster.
Hubby and I have been N/C with his bio- mom since March. She didn’t raise her kids family did or they were in foster care. She had 4 one son (deceased), my DH and his twin sister, then her youngest who was placed for adoption at 18mo (f), because she was addicted to drugs and doing other illegal stuff to get her next fix. During this time her children were abused (both sexual and physical), neglected, and left to their own devices at 7 and younger. Now they are all grown she tries to parent. We have all given her plenty of chances to be apart of our lives and every time she relapses. She is on anti-psycotic meds and recently got her medical Marijuana license, which i don’t think she should be smoking on those meds.
Tonight she reached out to my mom, who we live with and outright asked why her son doesn’t want anything to do with her. My mom told her he has been busy working out near her area and she got offended he didn’t come see her. My mom finally gave it to her straight she said he was hurt that we opened our home to her not once, but twice, and both times she chose to leave. She also told her he didn’t appreciate the way she treated me the first time. She would get upset at something I said or did/didn’t do and give me the cold shoulder for weeks. She even rearranged my kitchen! I have a China cabinet that belonged to DH’s grandparents and I kept all my nice dishes and prized skull collection inside to show them off. She rearranged it so if you opened it the dishes would fall and break, and she hid my skulls. These are precious to me because my parents helped me build my collection over the years, and most of them my dad bought for me when he was battling cancer.
This time we moved into my uncle’s home to help my mom take care of him and my dad. My dad is very weak from treatment and sometimes he can barely get out of bed, and my uncle has CP. We pay the mortgage every month, and cook for the family when we can. She lived here for months and did nothing but watch TV, color in her room, or smoke cigarettes in our backyard. The house needs a lot of work and we have made many improvements already, but she claimed she wanted to be part of a family since her siblings had cur her off, which mine opened theirs to her, and she basically threw it in our faces. Now she is blocked on everything and we have changed our numbers. She keeps making new FB accounts trying to send me request that just get blocked and ignored. I don’t check my other socials much but if she were to request me on them she would get blocked there too.
I’m not really looking for advice, I just needed to vent because every time we think we’re done with her drama she finds a way to stir the pot again!