So my I am a mid 40’s M wife is around the same age. We have a middle and high schooler. My issue is that my MIL early 60’s is soon to be without a place to live, she was living with her mother and her mother passed. Per the will the house is to be split between all the siblings which hasn’t happened yet. She hasn’t worked in years and took social security early as means of income. She has barely any money, especially not enough to buy a place or hell even rent one. My wife’s grandma was in a steady decline and we knew her time was coming fast. We kept asking what is the plan but she brushed it off. After her mother passed she refused to fill out forms for public housing. Now my MIL is crashing on our couch we don’t have another room. My one place to hang out is gone.
She has been nothing but rude and expecting to be take care of constantly.
I am honestly considering filing for separation/ divorce because I don’t want to spend the rest of my adult life having to take care of my MIL because she refuses to adult and my wife is trying to salvage the relationship with her mom (her mom is toxic), women typically have daddy issues she has mommy issues.
I know many will criticize me for my stance/thinking. My kids are the reason I stick around If I had known I’d end up here I probably wouldn’t have gotten married to who I married if at all.
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I do sympathize, but welcome to the life of many many, many married women.