Yesterday evening I had an unexpected argument with my girlfriend (25F). During the day everything seemed fine, despite being in a 3-week long-distance situation.
In the evening, she wanted to discuss serious future plans, got upset, and stopped the conversation. About an hour later she called me, but I was asleep. At 3 AM I found this message from her:
“I sincerely think more and more that I want to break up with you and that I want to return to (my home country). I am deeply sad and I need space. Sorry, I’m going to block your WhatsApp, please don’t contact me. I will soon announce it to my boss and resign.”
Since then, she has blocked me everywhere. I’m worried because she is alone, far from her home country qnd She Will have her period in few days. So, what are safe ways to support a partner who is emotionally distant and alone?
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She’s an adult. She’ll figure it out.
What has she said or done to make you think she’ll do something bad? It sincerely sounds like she just doesn’t want to talk to you.
Saying she’s going to resign isn’t an indicator that she’s going to do something bad. If she does that, it’s her choice she’s an adult.
What part her blocking you and leaving the country makes you think she wants your support?
The safest way to help her is to respect her decision. Have you considered that she may not be alone at all? In a three-week long-distance relationship, everything seemed fine. She is going to be fine.
she’s not your partner anymore.
From what you’ve said here I don’t think there is anything concerning – she has simply decided to break up with you and return home. That will probably be stressful for her but doesn’t indicate that she is mentally unwell or at risk of hurting herself which your title suggested. Also what is the relevance of her period here?!
I think you need to accept that she has blocked you and does not want your support because you’re not longer her partner. If she genuinely is in need of your help she will simply unblock you but you can’t presume that she won’t cope.
OP, she is not your partner any more. What she does, and with whom, is no longer any of your business.
I get that you can’t help but worry about her. But she specifically asked you not to contact her again, and even blocked you everywhere to make it tougher for you to ignore her request and contact her anyway. That suggests that she’s already made a plan for getting back to her own country safely, and she doesn’t need your help or support in doing so.
It’s a rough way to break up. But it sounds like she’s tried to end the relationship previously, and you’ve always managed to convince her to hang in there and keep it going. She doesn’t want you to talk her out of it again, so this was the only way she felt she could manage it.
If you truly want to show you love and support her, the best thing you can do is respect her wishes, let her go, and accept that your relationship is over.
What does her period have to do with anything ? Besides, she already blocked you. she told you that she doesn’t want you to contact her so you need to respect her choice and leave her alone. Besides if she has blocked you , you don’t really have a choice anyway.
She blocked you. Don’t catch a restraining order.
Did you used to be her maxi pad? Why can’t she survive her next period without you?
She has a job so I assume she’s an adult, and hopefully a plan and finances to get back to her home country.
You’ve been in a long distance relationship for 3 weeks! Have you ever met in person? She sounds like a very unstable woman. I know it feels bad when someone blocks you and that’s just a bruised ego. She’s made it clear she wants nothing to do with you. You could be the 10th guy in 30 weeks she’s done this to so be grateful that you dodged a bullet in keeping her as a gf. All relationships reach ‘crisis points’ where you either choose to be more honest and intimate with each other, or you say, “adios amigos.” She’s chosen the “Adios” response to honor her choice and move on.
You’ve known her for 3 weeks. Do you think her period makes her just totally irrational? How would you know?
Women have periods every month and are just fine. She’s 25. She’s been having periods for well over a decade and has survived every one so far, so I’m not sure what the big concern is here.
You support her by giving her the space she’s asked for. You’ve known her for 3 weeks. She’s lived 25 years without you, she’ll be okay.
She blocked you. You didn’t really speak to any issues in the relationship, but it’s possible she doesn’t feel listened to…..”…got upset and stopped the conversation.”….
Or it’s possible she is breaking up as an excuse to mess around. People who feel guilty about cheating often break up and block so if they mess around it’s not actual cheating. Then they want to reconnect.
Or, you said she wanted to go back to her home country. She could just be depressed and missing home.
Whatever it is, don’t be a “pick me” guy. She’s an adult. If she comes back, keep your walls up for a bit as her actions are definitely red flags. My personal take is anyone who ghosts me becomes dead to me, and doesn’t get a second chance….no matter why they ghosted, they had a chance to act like an adult and talk things out.
She blocked you on everything. Which means she doesn’t want you in her life at the moment. And that type of disrespect means that even if she comes back to you in a few days or a few weeks that you shouldn’t want her in your life ever again so just block her and move on with your life. She’s not worth it. But also, you sound a little imbalanced. It might be time to talk to someone. No shade, I say that with genuine concern.
Bro, she just broke up with, leave her alone! She blocked you on everything because she doesn’t want to be with you. She even told you this.
And for fuck sakes don’t blame her period on this. Leave this girl alone.