Hi all. I’m 30f and feel like I’ve never had an actual best friend, or a group of girl friends. I have had many friends over the years, and girls I definitely would have considered my best friends at the time, but never really one solid person or group that I felt like truly understood me or would be there for me.
As I’ve gotten older, it’s definitely more difficult to make friends. I have plenty of friends at work, but that’s as far as it goes. I have found the only person I could ever really call my best friend is my partner. I see many girls I went to high school or college with that will post about girls trips and girls night out and all that sort of thing, and many of them are still the same friends they’ve been for over 10 years. I see girls I know get married and have 7-10 bridesmaids. I would struggle to even come up with 3.
Sometimes it makes me kinda sad or like I’m a loser because I have literally never experienced friendships like this. Is there anyone else like me? Or anyone who maybe found their best friend a little later in life?
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My 3 close friends are all from high school and honestly I don’t have any close friends outside of them. I struggle to make friends at 41. I have thought about it and I think it’s because of the amount of energy it takes. My friends that I’ve known since childhood I can just be myself with and I don’t have to be overly concerned with putting on a show or acting a certain way since I know at this stage we are friends for life.
I think most people introverted people feel the same way. It’s a struggle and it only gets harder.
Are you me? I feel the exact same. I’ve never really had good friends. Or a best friend really. I had one when I was in high school that only lasted a few months and then we had a falling out so I don’t really count that.
You are not alone.
I haven’t had close girlfriends since my first year of college. I’ve always been a loner when I can choose to be, so it really doesn’t bother me.