I (27m) have been dating my girlfriend (25f) for almost a year now. She’s incredibly outgoing, she can walk into any room and instantly make friends. She’s got a ton of friends, both guys and girls, always getting invited to parties, dinners, events, etc.
I’m the complete opposite. I’m more reserved, kind of introverted. I like smaller hangouts and i don’t have nearly the same circle she does. She’s never made me feel bad about it, but sometimes I feel like I’m lagging behind socially when I’m around her and her group.
I trust her completely, but i can’t help comparing myself and wondering if she might eventually think I’m boring. Do I talk to her about this or just keep it to myself?
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I (27m) have been dating my girlfriend (25f) for almost a year now. She’s incredibly outgoing, she can walk into any room and instantly make friends. She’s got a ton of friends, both guys and girls, always getting invited to parties, dinners, events, etc.
I’m the complete opposite. I’m more reserved, kind of introverted. I like smaller hangouts and i don’t have nearly the same circle she does. She’s never made me feel bad about it, but sometimes I feel like I’m lagging behind socially when I’m around her and her group.
I trust her completely, but i can’t help comparing myself and wondering if she might eventually think I’m boring. Do I talk to her about this or just keep it to myself?
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I used to be in a relationship like that, the key is to accept the way she is and the way who you are.
Talk to her in a way that doesn’t show that you are worried.
Try asking: are you okay with the fact that Im not that outgoing? Do you feel I need to be more outgoing?
Show you acknowledge who you are and who she is.
How did you two get together at all?
Acceptance brother!! Key is acceptance.
You see your fingers? They don’t look alike, how do you think two people think alike? It’s not possible but the way it is, it’s apt. You have to be like that, otherwise relationships won’t work. But one thing, both of you, should have one common goal, your relationship. If any party is deviating from it, we have a problem. Insecurities will come and go, your relationship should stay.
Man to man, I’d say definitely talk to her about it instead of keeping it bottled up. Confidence doesn’t mean you have to match her energy, it means owning who you are and being comfortable in it. She’s with you for a reason, and odds are she values the balance you bring. Outgoing people often love having someone steady and grounded at their side. If you’re honest about how you’re feeling, it’ll probably make her respect you even more.
You keep it by remembering she is choosing to be with you(for now, at least).
Talk it out of course, but even if she doesn’t like you then don’t worry, you’ve got you and there are plenty of other fish in the sea