Recently I bring up the same discussion that I feel disconnected and would love to go on dates and feel like I want to experience life with my bf. There’s more to life than getting high and being at home all day especially with us both being 25. Maybe I just wasn’t patient enough because 10 months into dating it just felt like he gave up to show any kind of effort which I felt.
While having the discussion he got frustrated again and said I was a hypocrite and ungrateful and then said from now on moving on the relationship I have to pay half the bills to which I replied “in that case I’m leaving then”. I was tired of feeling like he could do whatever he wanted with me. Why not just talk or work through it?
He never did that though. It was me who kept the relationship together from the beginning. He would always get distant, grow silent and leave me to fix the rest. But this time it was me who grew like that, and I was hoping that maybe just maybe I would get a glimpse that he wanted this relationship to work as bad as me.
Day 4 of avoiding eachother at home and not saying anything. It’s killing me. He blocked me off Snapchat, deleted and blocked my number and removed my location. Something new for him since he liked to keep old contacts and acquaintances around (even female) until I said something. Also took my access off the ring camera. Hurts.
I mean yesterday he did ask me what my plans were and that he hopes I can figure it out as soon as possible. And before he left around 10pm, he told me he was going to the casino to watch the fight with his friends.. which idk why he would tell me.
I want to say something but I know my words hold no weight and it’s too late. Also how dumb would I be to want to work it out now? I’ve ALWAYS been the one chasing him. Because I love him more than he loves me. But I don’t want to end it, I just wish he would show effort.
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He’s not the guy you want him to be. Stop chasing him.
Honestly seems like he’s already checked out of the relationship without directly saying it. He’s moved on but is keeping you around, likely because he doesn’t know how to approach the situation or does not want to deal with the aftermath of raising it. Time for you to find your own place and leave this guy. I doubt you will be missed.
Although, second point, if you guys are living together you should be willing to pay half the rent and bills and stuff. I don’t understand why so many people I’ve seen on Reddit think people are out of line for asking for half the bills when they are literally cohabiting with their partners
You can’t *make” someone show effort. He’s got to want to. And he apparently doesn’t.
You know what you should do. Beating a dead horse won’t help anything.
Good luck!
The fact that he can go days without talking to you, blocks you on social media and you’re the one always chasing him. Respect yourself and get out of there.
He’s emotionally manipulating you.
“Day 4 of avoiding each other at home and not saying anything, it’s killing me”
Stop dying.
He doesn’t care and he’s purposely punishing you for wanting a better relationship. He’s waiting for you to cave. He does not love you. No one who loves you will do this. Look for a new place and find someone else. Don’t become this man’s emotionally abusive punching bag any further.
Leave and find your happiness- it’s definitely not with him.
You should want to end it. He’s not good to you. I recommend therapy for this because you shouldn’t be tolerating his toxicity in the first place.
Who he was in the beginning is fake and just for show. Go out to a museum on your own or to the beach. You don’t need him! He’ll be so jealous and will tell you all the sweet things after. Don’t listen to him and do what’s best for you
I’d move out. I couldn’t live like that.