Hello everyone, I missed a while but I was very depressed, last week I took a flight to get to my parents’ house, he signed the travel authorization and here I am at my parents’ house. I was able to talk more in depth about this topic with my mother and she advised me to let things go and that one day he will regret it and come back but a week has passed, he has not returned and he barely talks to me to find out how our baby is doing. I am desperate, it is painful for me to see that from one day to the next my marriage, my family was destroyed by my in-laws. I was left devastated, I know that I must move forward but it is difficult, it still hurts me to know that my partner, the one I chose for life, has betrayed me in that way. Even so, I decided to go ahead and look for a job and ask my father to help me finish my studies. I don’t want to remain stuck in depression, thanks to everyone who advised me.
My husband prefers to be with his parents than with me and our baby update 2
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You’re really strong for choosing to move forward despite the pain—keep focusing on yourself and your baby.
Listen, men are wankers. There is more to life than being in relationship with them.
There are literally millions of things we can do to have fulfilling lives besides being in relationships with men.
Deal with the legal aspect of separating from him- divorce, child support, parenting plan or whatever and then go move 1 step in front of the other and start living your one juicy life!
(You may find there’s a low cost Justice access Centre that can help you deal org those legal things. Go look it up)
It’s sad the man you thought you knew well enough to marry turned out to be a douchenozzle. Move forward with the divorce and hopefully your parents will support you until you regain your balance.
Lawyer.
Sis, you need therapy. The level of betrayal is devastating. You need help to sort out your feelings and move on to the next phrase of your life without the drama. Good luck. DO NOT RUN BACK TO THAT “man” nothing will change.
Put him on child support if the kids are with you
Take the time you need to mourn your loss then do what you know is right for yourself and your child. Get an attorney and end the marriage, and go for sole custody so you can move on. Finish your education and live your best life.
One day this man baby may decide he wants to be a part of your life and your child’s life again but it won’t happen as long as he is under his parents control. He made a choice and while it hurts right now, you will heal and be stronger. You will be an amazing mother.
Updateme
Stay strong and also seek help you could also be suffering from PPD. Talk to your doctor.
We’re rooting for you girl, your kiddo will have you as a role model for self respect and real love, and your child will know him for who he is….
You’re doing the right thing by focusing on yourself and your baby. It hurts now, but one day you’ll be proud of how strong you were when everything fell apart. He lost way more than he realises.
Updateme!
I know your in-laws didn’t help but he obviously chose to abandon his wife & baby to remain a spoiled man-child. I know you’re hurt but you & baby are worth so much more than this! I don’t know where you are but I’d see a lawyer & discuss how to protect yourself & your baby so he can’t come back & take either of you. If you return to that house they will continual treat you horribly. I wish you well in your studies & a good life for you both! NTA.
Updateme
I would go to the doctor and discuss what you need to do to deal with the depression. Also, don’t beg him anymore. Act like you don’t care. Some men are nice until they know you’re trapped, and then they turn into monsters. He was a predator, and you should avoid all contact with him. I’m sorry you went through this at such a young age. Find a better man and live your best life.