Soooo earlier I posted my conflict. Been with this man for almost two years. He’s big on social media and when we were going on a trip we were detached but still went. He and this girl started talking about meeting up but never happened. He continued texting her and secretly saved her nudes on an app. He said this only went on a month but turns out it had been since March until July. Never hung out but would ask if she’s ever up north which is where he works to meet up. He also paid for two girls only fans in July. He’s begging me to stay saying he’s sorry and will delete everything and set very serious boundaries from now on. Our sex life has not always been the best. At one point I was 98 pounds looking like a stick but now I’m 125 and since I gained weight our sex life has been 70% better. He always takes long to get there but sometimes it takes 5 mins. I would always think it was a porn problem. Still don’t know. He has like an obsession with big boobs which I don’t have… he says he still wants me. We have been talking about moving in together a few months ago. How would you feel?
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It feels like your health being at stake seems less of a priority than you valuing a person with some objectively toxic traits. Is that something you can continue to accept long term? I’m not in the advice business, and no judgement on your ultimate decision, but you are totally worth taking up space in your life and his, and if he doesn’t give you the energy you need, you should leave him.
Buddy is psyching himself up to cheat. Arranging a meetup and then lying about it? I personally don’t want to have to police my partner if they’re pulling these antics.
You’ve been with him for almost 2 years and this is how he treats you? Cheating is bad enough, but the lies, the nudes, the whole situation just seems like a red flag. You gotta do what’s best for you. Maybe take some time away and see how you feel without him trying to fix everything.
Unless you want this to be your life forever, you need to leave him. He says that he still wants you, but his behavior shows otherwise.