I mean that’s the easier side to be on. The details of “how to deal with it” are going to be 100% dependent on the circumstances at play. Maybe as simple as letting them down gently and never talking to them again. Or if it’s someone you regularly interact with, just give them space to process the let down and move on. But in general just continue to treat them in a kind, platonic manner. Their end of things is going to dictate most of it. It’s on them to actually get over you and move on with their life. Really doesn’t require much proactivity from your side of things. You can just keep living your life as usual.
I struggled a lot with saying no. At first I said no, but she was persistent so I kept avoiding her and delaying any plans she tried to make until she lost interest.
I’m not sure it was actually love. She asked “would you want to try dating” and I was caught so completely off guard that the only reply I managed to come up with was “I don’t know how to answer that.”
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how did you deal with being the one who wasn’t interested in loving someone back?
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I tried to be very honest and up front that I wasnt interested.
I mean that’s the easier side to be on. The details of “how to deal with it” are going to be 100% dependent on the circumstances at play. Maybe as simple as letting them down gently and never talking to them again. Or if it’s someone you regularly interact with, just give them space to process the let down and move on. But in general just continue to treat them in a kind, platonic manner. Their end of things is going to dictate most of it. It’s on them to actually get over you and move on with their life. Really doesn’t require much proactivity from your side of things. You can just keep living your life as usual.
I don’t think anybody’s ever loved me
A few times there’ve been people interested whose interest wasn’t reciprocated, though
I just never gave them any sign it was
I struggled a lot with saying no. At first I said no, but she was persistent so I kept avoiding her and delaying any plans she tried to make until she lost interest.
I just say I’m not interested in that woman.
I’m not sure it was actually love. She asked “would you want to try dating” and I was caught so completely off guard that the only reply I managed to come up with was “I don’t know how to answer that.”
(This was online, not an in-person conversation.)
It was never spoken of again.