so we both are at 12th grade, we both had final exams that is too stressful
One time she said that she doesn’t wanna talk again, and I, without insisting or anything else, I agreed because she said she doesn’t wanna talk again, we stopped talking, after two days she came back she said she was testing me, I said okay then, we connected again and we were talking perfectly that night, the next night she was so mean, and she blocked me in the middle of the exams, I was so hurt and confused
I couldn’t sleep nor study, I literally had to stop doing the exams and put it in the second attempt, because I couldn’t study, my mom was worried about me a lot, she told me I should go to Pharmacy
I was really hurt, l messaged her in multiple accounts to just get some closure about what the heck did I do? After few days she told me it was because I disrespected her, but I promise and swear to God I don’t remember that I insulted her or minimizing her emotions like she did to me when I told her somethings she does is hurting me, she later said ) it just landed that way ) and then blamed me again
I literally told her that I’m fully prepared to take accountability and responsibility for my actions, but she refused to explain it but we started talking again Later because I couldn’t study I told her that I have exams in the second attempt, she said okay and told me to finish it soon so we can talk more, I was happy when I heard that
She finished her all exams but I didn’t finish one, so I had to delete my all social medias because I had to focus, but the thing was.. I didn’t tell anyone that I go quiet at all, which it was wrong
After studying for a while, one of my friends called me and told me he was worried about me, I downloaded instagram again, my friends sent me messages because they were worried, I explained to them why I went quiet
She sent me messages too, she was worried even one of my friend showed some screenshots of her messaging my friend asking if I’m doing well, my friend said ( yeah he’s doing well but I know you were hurting him ) these things (I was venting to my friends that’s how he knows) She was so mad at me for not telling her, she said she was so worried, I apologized and explained everything but she immediately went cold and dry
I didn’t delete instagram so I can be in touch with my friends, but it wasn’t a good decision I guess
I didn’t delete instagram so I can be in touch with my friends, but it wasn’t a good decision I guess
She told me that she doesn’t care anymore because she realized it’s not worth it anymore
And it’s my second attempt of my finals rn
TL;DR she’s mad at me and says I’m not worth it because I didn’t care enough to tell her i go quiet and do exams, meanwhile she knew it was my exam period also
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FYI sending messages through multiple accounts to block evade is rarely a good idea. A block is a boundary, and you have to respect boundaries. At most, I might send one message, and only one message, so it had better be good.
But also, you cannot take accountability and make amends if you have no damn clue what you did. Either she assumes you know, or she’s an asshole and is doing this deliberately. My money is on the latter. And what the hell was the test she was giving you?
The thing about closure is if someone wants you gone, an explanation is a courtesy, not a requirement. If it was a healthy relationship, yeah I might judge someone for not offering that courtesy. Frankly though, she sounds exhausting, and you’re better off accepting this breakup and walking away. Let her reasons be a mystery, I promise if she tried to explain, it would bring up more questions.
If she can’t explain how you disrespected her than it’s a high chance she’s just making shit up. That coupled with the test she did and it sounds like she really enjoys making people throw themselves at her feet and beg. She’s not good for you. I would be moving on from this one.