I got off of school in late June, and have been very busy for most of the summer breaks from doing internships where i have to wake up early or going to another country to visit family for three week. As soon as i come back from a three week vacation. I hear that my cousins and their mom is going to stay at our apartment. (Our apartment is very small 2bathrooms 2 bedrooms. And only three beds.) i already share a room with my 20 yr brother and live with my mom. She agreed to have my two adult cousins and their mom stay with us for three week. And have planned to let them stay in my room for the three weeks. ( i start school in 3 weeks. When hearing this I completely refused. And since I refused she has been calling me a brat and saying that I shouldn’t be so greedy. I understand that she has no where to put them, but I think it’s ridiculous that she is trying to force me to spend the remainder of my summer break sharing a queen size bed with my brother. This isn’t even accounting for how all my stuff is in my room including my PC, which i haven’t been able to use for the majority of my summer break. Im not sure if i am being greedy as, I feel that my room is my one sanctuary where I get to relax unbothered. Im alright with someone sleeping on my brother’s bed across from me but I am really against having someone sleep in my bed for three weeks.
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I got off of school in late June, and have been very busy for most of the summer breaks from doing internships where i have to wake up early or going to another country to visit family for three week. As soon as i come back from a three week vacation. I hear that my cousins and their mom is going to stay at our apartment. (Our apartment is very small 2bathrooms 2 bedrooms. And only three beds.) i already share a room with my 20 yr brother and live with my mom. She agreed to have my two adult cousins and their mom stay with us for three week. And have planned to let them stay in my room for the three weeks. ( i start school in 3 weeks. When hearing this I completely refused. And since I refused she has been calling me a brat and saying that I shouldn’t be so greedy. I understand that she has no where to put them, but I think it’s ridiculous that she is trying to force me to spend the remainder of my summer break sharing a queen size bed with my brother. This isn’t even accounting for how all my stuff is in my room including my PC, which i haven’t been able to use for the majority of my summer break. Im not sure if i am being greedy as, I feel that my room is my one sanctuary where I get to relax unbothered. Im alright with someone sleeping on my brother’s bed across from me but I am really against having someone sleep in my bed for three weeks.
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> The action of refusing to let family members sleep in my bed when they apparently have no where else to stay but our small apartment. I might be a asshole as they are family and if they are really that desperate for a bed I might be refusing them the only comfortable sleeping spot in our apartment.
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NTA, your Aunt and your cousins should be staying in a hotel. Also how old and what sex are you?
NTA – they can stay in mom’s room and bed. Mom and sleep on the couch. Your poor brother.
If your mom thinks you are greedy for not wanting your cousins and their mom to sleep in your bed, why not offer them HER bed, instead? She will refuse, so who is the greedy one now? Inviting people to come visit and providing them with a place to sleep is nice if you have the space but to force one of your children out of their room to allow relatives to use the space if not a good look. Why does your brother get to keep his bed, it’s large, the three of them could sleep there. Lots of alternatives here that don’t include you giving up your bed.
No, No and No. It’s just weird.
Q? Do you pay any form of rent to your mom?
Nta. do you have a friend who will let you stay?
I think we’re missing some context.
Where is this family coming from? Are they visiting or do they need a place to stay?
I’m also assuming that your aunt will sleep with your mom in her bed? In one of your posts, you mention that there is no dining room table. That, combined with the small apartment that you live in leads me to believe that your family aren’t the wealthiest of people, and by extension, the family visiting isn’t either? Could they afford to get a hotel or Airbnb for 3 weeks? I’m assuming not, which is why they’re staying with you.
Absolutely NTA. This is ridiculous
Too little space for live in guests. And 3 weeks? What the hell? I have a big house with plenty of room and I still don’t want that. People need their space.
You or she can change the sheets