Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1mpxl4k/comment/n8up3xo/
TLDR:
I discovered my cat S bleeding severely Thursday night. My BF flew out Friday morning to party and attend a wedding of our mutual friend, leaving me to handle all emergency vet care alone (dragging two cats, S and A, to vet, giving medication). He split the bills, but didn’t apologize or check on me, later claiming “marriage is a one-time event” justified his absence and that “support wasn’t necessary.” This incident made me stop seeing him as husband material.
Compounded by a year-and-a-half-long dead bedroom (my needs unmet), his constant rejections have destroyed my self-esteem. He refuses doctors/therapy for potential low libido/depression.
UPDATE:
Today, I broke up with him. I tried to explain our problems as gently as possible, and at first, he was apologetic. He hugged me, said he’d realized his mistakes on the trip, and wanted to try again. He even tried to entice me to stay, arguing that living in his apartment was financially smarter and reminding me that he loved me.
Then he said, that the cats, work, chores, and studying were all burdens on his enjoyment of life. He admitted that he’d realized on vacation that his ideal life was being alone, without responsibilities, at the seaside. He even suggested I join him in this fantasy, but I knew I couldn’t trust him – and that our lives were on completely different paths.
Faced with my rejection, he became passive-aggressive, accusing me of rushing into the breakup and of abandoning the cats – calling them our “children” now.
People in previous post wrote that he would try to get me back, and that’s exactly what happened. The only problem is that I started feeling guilty after our conversation. Guess that’s everything 🙂
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